Truly the wish of every parent. When they come home from school and say “X called me stupid” you’re heart breaks because you can’t fix that other nasty kid and you want to protect them from hurts that they can’t see coming…sigh.
They are quite robust though. Our number two has been neglected and not fussed over compared to #1 and as a result is a talkative independent young lady who is sure of her own opinions. She never had the same health issues as her sister…or did we not notice or react in the same way as with #1? I think you overreact to #1, neglect #2 and get it right with #3??? #3 isn’t here yet for us. The suggestion of breast milk up the nose is good too. Breast milk in the eye for conjuctivitis works too and also for mosquito bites.
You are doing a wonderful job and your baby is beautiful and don’t let anyone tell you you’re not!