[quote]Tommy, you really don’t know Malaysia lah !
You should also add a caveat to your statement, that you are talking about girls from poor families that specifically seek out marriage to foreigners in order to provide financial support to their families. An educated woman from a well-off family will, obviously, not be looking for this[/quote]
eh, I dunno. Philippine and Malay culture are very similar and have had similar historical impositions; and I disagree that those who are well-off will necessarily be better people than the poorer ones. In my experience, professional or moneyed people in the Philippines are the biggest crooks and scumbags you would ever wish to meet. The problem is that it is all but impossible in that country to make money by honest means. Anyone with a gated mansion, a dozen cars, etc etc is either up to something dirty, or had not-so-distant relatives (parents, say) who were. There are exceptions, of course. I’ve met a couple of very honest businessmen, but they’re well-connected to high-level landed/moneyed families. It may be a stereotype, but salt-of-the-earth types tend to be a bit more reliable. Unless they’re gamblers or drinkers, in which case all bets are off.
I haven’t met many Malaysians or Indonesians, but I know people who have lived and worked there and I get the impression the economy works in much the same way: graft, corruption, environmental rape, outright theft, and stepping on the heads of the poor to get ahead (sorry, momentarily possessed by the ghost of Marx there).
The problem I see with both cultures is they simply don’t understand money or capital, and can’t manage it properly. That applies to rich and poor alike. Also bear in mind that “rich” is relative: a degree-educated girl in Manila might be earning PHP30K a month, but she’ll be paying out at least 10K for an apartment, 5K as the price of living in a city (bills, apartment maintenance, travel, tips, etc), 10K for food, and whatever’s left to a dozen feckless relatives out in the provinces. You, even if you’re only earning NT$60K (PHP90K) in some bottom-tier English school, are a lot better off.