So here I am again…lucked out with the restraining order. As far as being in good financial standing, that is still being squared away. While I do not carry any debt and I am getting by, I very much need to generate more income. My student loan debts in the US are squared away and I seem to be doing OK. However, I do need to be prepared for first/last at the beginning of September and will need to be making more money to support the small business ventures I’ve embarked upon. They’ve not been officially started as businesses as the marriage is still valid and I do not want to slip that up.
Question is, the wife is under the impression that I “promised” a divorce when all I did was give a tentative date for signing papers. She has her feet planted so firmly into the soil on this one…and even though I do not want this, she isn’t moving one inch on this. But something she said to me was that if I did not sign…and if I delayed any more, she was prepared to take me to court and would have her lawyer handle things. Personally, I think she is just trying to intimidate me.
Here is her case:
a) I never hit her. She never went to the hospital to be treated for domestic abuse. The police never took pictures of any bruises or welts I made…because there were none. She lied to the judge about me “grabbing” her; I grabbed her hand. I loved this woman.
b) Her sister came into our apartment despite not having been invited in. She then took a seat on the couch and unbeknownst to me was recording our “conversation” after the police left. Since my wife was doing the typical sitting there ignoring the shit out of me routine, I of course grew very aggravated. When she said she was leaving I said, “FINE…GET THE HELL OUT” while at the same time throwing something to the ground…not at her. She of course continued with the eye-rolling and other obnoxious shit. I went into our bedroom and ended up crying myself to sleep…it was pretty great.
c) I made many efforts to contact her…telling her I missed her…that I did not want this…indicating that I was very hurt by all of this. I did not threaten her and every single email, she then COLLECTED to make a statement that I somehow was harassing her. There was one message in the bunch that did not show my best side, but it was in response to inflammatory remarks she had made. Both the judge and the translator asked about them…the translator said NOTHING looked threatening and provided some comfort by saying that the judge has seen this MANY times…and that she herself had seen the same. She did recommend not speaking to my wife…which is tough. I loved this woman…immensely.
d) I did not abuse drugs or alcohol. I took cold medicine to sleep at night, counteract depression and well…let’s not talk about this. I did say this was the case, but all she has is me saying it…it’s circumstantial and there is no hard evidence that this was taking place.
e) I have not committed any crimes, I paid ALL of the bills…carried MORE than my fair share of the financial burden for FIVE years. I lost my job. She only had to pay bills for ONE month. She freaked out.
So here is where I ask a question: does she or does she not have a case? To me it seems like there is nothing there…there is no solid evidence of spousal abuse, harassment, drug or alcohol abuse or really anything. Also, the recorded transcript of our “conversation” was essentially entrapment as my wife was BAITING me into talking more than I should have…and the sister violated my privacy by recording ME without my permission. In the US, this would be inadmissible…is it the same here? It seems like her case is very weak at best.
I should be getting the re-purposed ARC by the end of the month, but even after getting it…I still don’t have to sign anything. I guess at this point I am somewhat interested in the “joke” of a case she might bring against me. I wasn’t a great husband…but I was not the monster or the piece of shit she is pretending I am.
WWYD?
