@throwaway: my point was that the OP doesn’t seem entirely engaged here. He’s “taking it slow”, it seems to me, because he’s either afraid of something, doesn’t really like the girl, or for whatever reason can’t simply say ‘yay’ or ‘nay’ to himself, or to her. She will view this either as insincerity or vacillation.
I was merely suggesting - as you did - that the OP needs to examine his own wants, needs, and motivations … and pick a path. No need to use the L word but at least tell the girl, sure, I like you, I think you’re hot, you’re my gf. Or tell her she’s not. Otherwise he’s just wasting the poor girl’s time.
She’s known him a matter of weeks though. Decisions in that phase are made by your hormones and your hindbrain.
Personally I like to get where I’m going by the shortest possible route. I don’t like dawdling, and I like other people who know what they want and reach for it with both hands. There are only so many days in one’s life and one should not let them slip by for no good reason. But I guess that’s just me.
Incidentally, I don’t see anything wrong with asking strangers for opinions, especially when you’re 24. I might have had fewer regrets if I’d had the internet when I was 24. Or 14, for that matter.