Yeah I’m aware of the fertility peak, which is very different from the sexual peak- which may well be nature’s last ditch attempt to get a woman replicating.
Here’s what I’ll tell you- in my early 20’s, I rarely thought about sex in explicit detail, even after I’d lost my virginity. I was more likely to fantasize about other aspects of a relationship, and physically, more likely to fantasize about cuddling and such. Maybe I’m weird, and I did grow up sheltered in some ways. But for me, the emphasis wasn’t on sex at all.
When I hit 27 or so, holy shit, I didn’t even recognize myself. I thought about sex FAAAAAARRRR more often and in FAAAAR greater detail. It hit me hard and it was a marked difference. It might have been difficult to measure by an outside party from a statistical perspective, but the difference was massive.
So I’m just speaking from my experience as a woman. She might be sussing this guy out to see if he’d be a better boyfriend (and if she’s thinking that a present boyfriend would be better than a long-distance boyfriend, she probably has a point, and since the two aren’t married yet, that’s fair game, eh?) but she’s probably not thinking about sex as much as you guys think.
Again, I can only speak from my own experience but since few women post on this forum I thought my perspective might be valuable to the OP.
Oh one more thought about being visual- sure, women are visual, and that might be a primary consideration for a one night stand or a night of flirting. But when a woman is looking for a long-term thing, aesthetics take a far backseat to other considerations (backseat? Looks may as well be in the trunk.) A woman won’t end up with a guy she finds physically repulsive but women often end up with guys that they wouldn’t find immediately attractive if they’ve got other features which are higher on her list. How often do you see a woman with an less attractive man? How often do you see a man with a less attractive woman?