[quote=“ThreadKiller”]Savvon, I have three major thoughts concerning [url=Heads up: Yelling at Taiwanese assistants OP[/url].
[quote=“Muzha Man”]
I wouldn’t do anything unless it reached the level of assault in some way. My wife is perfectly capable of handling such a situation herself.[/quote]
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- I enjoyed the above as, Savvon, I found your original post to be smacking of chauvinism:
[quote]Teachers will also tell their husbands/boyfriends. You should have more foresight before yelling at one of our wives, the mother of our child(ren) and daughters of Taiwan.
Ask yourself, what would you do if some “foreigner” yelled at your wife/girlfriend?[/quote]
Being cordial in the workplace has nothing to do with whether one is male or female, or whether another is someone’s wife or daughter. And however unnecessary verbal abuse is, I can’t see how the situation would be improved by having a husband, father or boyfriend threaten any foreigner who had complained too vociferously about not being respected. Besides which, some foreign teachers are female and some assistants are male.
I feel that anyone yelling at a woman should be asking themselves why they need to yell at another human being. Why should the person undergoing the treatment be defined in terms of her roles as a male’s partner, daughter, or mother?
- Putting aside my dismay at the inherent sexism of the post though, let me state that of course foreigners working in Taiwan should show respect to their Taiwanese colleagues and vice versa. While I have seldom seen anger expressed openly between foreign and Taiwanese co-workers, I’ve been bemused, amused, and disturbed by anger expressed in open by both hothead teachers and arrogant Taiwanese management - ending badly in most cases, regardless of which party was ranting. Nevertheless, it is difficult to know what actually happened in the situation you originally used as an example.
We simply do not know. The angry teacher may not have been disrespected at all, with the assistant offering all assistance without hesitation. Alternatively, he may have been provoked to the point at which most rational people would have snapped.
After all, I am reading your version of a story that was itself related to you by your wife who, as you state:
- It would be nice to live in a world in which everyone respected everyone else and in which everyone deserved respect. And I do do what I can to treat all in my workplace with respect. But it’s easier for me in my present job at the university where I have amazing colleagues. Taiwanese/foreigner, native speaker/Taiwanese colleague relationships are fraught with difficulties (especially in the usual buxiban set-up). Both the foreigners and the Taiwanese teachers/assistants often leave the classroom and bitch about the other side. You and I know that both the teacher and the assistant are real human beings with both good and bad characteristics, but a teacher’s friends have probably told him (if we assume maleness here) to expect a lack of respect instead of help from any assistant, while certain assistants have no doubt entered classrooms expecting nothing but laziness and arrogance from native speaking teachers.
So while I imagine that the teacher in the situation you described was probably being an asshole (based on my own biases against foreign teachers) let me clarify my thoughts by reiterating that …
- There’s no reason to be silly and sexist about it.
- There’s reason to be cautious before judging situations when we have few details.
- There’s a need for more respect from both sides of the teaching divide.
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Threadkiller,
I apologized for the stereotypical topic in the beginning of my first post. It is not chauvinism or sexism. When I used an example of a Taiwanese female assistant teacher, it’s statistically accurate. Also, I only referred to one foreigner being male and that is the one in my example. I have seen a foreigner female teacher lose it too, but I didn’t think bringing it up would be relevant.
I personally have never met a male Taiwanese assistant teacher and I have never met a foreigner assistant teacher. Currently at Future Heir school there are many assistant teachers, every single one being Taiwanese and female. I am sure you have met a male assistant teacher in your journeys in Taiwan, but that does not change the fact that female Taiwanese mostly fill the role of assistant teacher.
This does not make me a chauvinist nor does it make me sexist simply because I acknowledge and recognize a pattern. I would like to ask you to please refrain from name calling, painting me with a wide brush or trying to “kill my thread” with your approach to this topic. It is not necessary for this discussion.
I know Taiwanese do bad things just like us, but that does not give us a free pass to lower ourselves and treat others like they are sub-human. The topic is about us, the foreigners in Taiwan. It is about us losing it. If you want to talk about Taiwanese losing it, start another thread and I will post my experiences in it.
Admins,
I notice you lock threads when things get “heated”. Please understand I am not angry or heated. I just wanted to bring up this topic because it seems to be common.