Most people who are sensitive and considerate won’t do it when the person is still around, because it may cause misunderstandings.
If you see a lady who is out of shape, and then you start discussing the obese problem in our society with your friends, and you let the lady hear it, then maybe you are a bad bad bad person.
Last time, I said I encountered a shoplifter in a Tesco Express, and you didn’t believe me, either.
I cannot agree more that these little incidents were just so unexpected and unreal.
But they did happen to me. They just did.
So, please don’t say things like I’m making up stories.
Again, if I want to make up stories to get myself famous or get myself invited to an interview on BBC, I will definitely make up stories a lot more serious and severe than bumping into a shoplifter in a Tesco Express or having people staring at me discussing my ethnicity.
Which is exactly why you need to develop a thicker skin. You need to take to heart the wisdom that American kids learn (well, used to learn) in kindergarten: Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me.
Enough is enough. You’re entitled to your own opinions. And I’m for open dialogue and debate. But you aren’t listening and won’t move pass the same point. It’s ruining the forum.
But in contrast with what you said, I found that most Chinese/Taiwanese-Americans, especially the ones born and raised in California, live in the wealthy neighborhoods, and got protected too well by their rich parents, hardly face any troubles or microaggressions.
Ironically, I think I face more troubles or microaggressions as an International traveler than they do.
But most people are not so sensitive nor considerate. If they as you and started talking about Korean/Vietnamese/Turkish, it is bad too?
why just “Western” countries?
If looking alike Chinese is the reason of your troubles, any ABCs, CBCs, BBCs, and so on, must face the same troubles when they are in western countries, at least while their international travel.