Yup, that describes a number of my co-workers. “We are too busy to take care of the baby.” or “It’s too much trouble to pick up the baby at night and then return it the next morning.”
So my question to parents like this: Why the FUCK have a baby if you are too lazy and/or too greedy to take care of it?
And the most common reply: “But my mother and father insisted we have one. You know, pressure from the family. You know, a Chinese thing.” :blah: :blah:[/quote]
Sincerely, the way people work here, from 7am to 10pm, having a baby and taking care of him/her seems like Mission Impossible.
There are several reputable baomu associations, and other care taking facilities. I do not know anybody here who has the luxury of raising their kids on their own. Yes, there may be people too lazy/greedy/work oriented, but as a whole, society is organized around someone else, not the parent, taking care of the kids. Sucks, but that’s what happens when “economic development” is prioritized in detriment of everything else.
That is why the parents act so “detached” and do not know how to handle their kids. I wonder then how they expect granpas and grandmas to do any better -aside from having extra time, they do not have any sharper skills. If total strangers have received some training and do this full time , say kindegarden teachers, etc. it has a bit of benefit, but then the numbers -too many kids, little eyeball time- is also troublesome.
A few weeks ago there was a similar case. A little girl died during naptime, apparently choked on her milk. The anchinban teacher had to look over 25 kids.
Now, if the people had criminal records and stuff, that’s a whole new ballgame. But a novice parent, who’s never done anything on their own, and has been told all his/her life to obey and not question, would not have the malice to ask for referenmces -which can be forged- or memebership to the association of baomu -which can also be faked.