Few years ago, I had an emotional affair involved with a married man. It was ended nastily with a police call by the wife.
During these past few years, I never looked back. (http://www.forumosa.com/taiwan/viewtopic.php?t=55311&postdays=0&postorder=asc&&start=0 My original post)
Six months ago, I got a new assignment to visit a client whose office is in the same building where the man was working. It’s a huge office building and it’s been so long after all. I didn’t think I should concern if he’s still there or not.
After the visiting, I walked back to my car and something caught my attention. Yeah, his car, a two years luxury car, was a mess and a baby car seat sat in the car. It could never happen if he’s in his right mind. It not only because his up tie personality, but also because his position is not allowed him to be so mess up. Therefore, my curiosity forced myself to get a close look of his car and wondered what could have happened to him. When I turned around, I found him standing there and watching me. I was embarrassed, of course, just walked directly to my car and drove away immediately without looking back.
He looked terrible and has been aged a lot. He looked 15 years older than 2 years ago (gained weight and lost lots of hair).
I paid extra precaution to avoid running into him again during my next few visits. However, I couldn’t control my curiosity and the fact that I still care about him despite what have happened in the pass.
Curiosity kills a cat! He knows me only too well! The next time I saw him, he has lost enormous of weight and shaved his hair bald instead of combed back. He seemed trying to improve his appearance in a very short period, and his ring was gone! He would never take off his ring if he’s still with his wife. My conclusion was they have separated for a while.
Thanks to his wife, I realized that this man has no respect for me what-so-ever when I read the police report years ago. According to the police report, he was never there during the police investigation. Don’t know if he’s too chicken to face the police or whatever reason. His wife knew every detail of our conversation. For this reason, I will NEVER, EVER want to have anything to do with this man again, not even he becomes the king of England!
Anyway, one time this man parked his car nearby mine while I was gone. He wrote an address and a phone number on a sticker and stuck it on the inside window of his driver seat. He knew I would pay attention on this one and try to figure things out.
My question is what on the earth he was trying to do!!!
Was it a trap? Since his families were not live with him, he might set up a trap making me a stalker if I was too stupid to check his house around and call him. Was he playing fire with fire?
Or was it an invitation? He just tried to allure me back??[/quote] A friend of mine is in exactly the same situation with you. She had affair with a married guy(at first the guy lied to her that he’s unmarried or single…I forgot). Anyway after years of dating/ trouble among these 3 people, all she could get is receiving money from this married guy as compensation, and nothing can make him leave his wife because they have kids! (personally I consider it’s an excuse). Even though she has bf for now, she still can’t get rid of him completely because…she can’t make her mind to disconnect with him for good. She can always find good reasons to meet him such as “Oh I need his compensation to pay my credit card bills” or “He needs to meet me for introducing a job in his friend’s company” or “We are just seeing each other as friends” etc… I think that’s the main reason why she is still single even she’s dying to get married as age 33 and she looks very pretty. I guess you have to choose how you want your life to be.