How long did it take you to adjust to Taiwan, where you feel comfortable living here?
- I was comfortable immediately, and have had no problems since moving here.
- It took me up to 6 months to get comfortable.
- I was comfortable within a year of moving here.
- It took me over a year, but less than two year. I am finally comfortable here.
- I’ve been here more than two years and I’m still not comfortable.
I have lived in Taiwan for over a year and a half. I find that I am still having trouble adjusting to being here. Granted, my situation is a little different (having come to Taiwan in order to keep my relationship with my bf together). However, I was wondering how long it has taken others to adjust to Taiwan.
I find I have few problems. One, is the language barrier. This, I’m trying to remedy by taking twice-weekly Chinese classes with a private tutor. I waited a bit long to really get serious about this. However, they are going well. Even so, I really can’t hold a long conversation yet. As my teacher keeps telling me “man man lai.” My goal for 2004 is to learn enough to have a conversation with my out-laws… ah… in-laws.
Two, though I don’t regret moving here, as it has allowed my bf and I to stay together, I didn’t and don’t like the fact that it was our only option. Since my bf couldn’t get a job in the US, we couldn’t live there together. The only other options were having a long-distance relationship, which neither of us wanted. Or, breaking up. Which, definitely, neither of us wanted. So, we were left with both moving here.
However, I find myself still focusing on what we left and/or when we are going to get out of here. Instead (and I know this intellectually, but have trouble dealing with it emotionally), I need to be focusing on our life here – making this the best it can be, enjoying the experience, etc…
Three, I realize that after a year and a half, I don’t really have many close friends (Taiwanese or foreign). Oh, I have friends. But, other than my bf and one close Taiwanese friend, I really don’t have anyone close that I can talk to, spend time with, etc… I’m the type of person who likes/needs to have a few really close friends, instead of a lot of acquaintances. I just haven’t found that here… yet.
Add to all this that I hate my current job, but don’t see much of a way out until my contract is up in 6 months.
Anyway… how long has it taken you to adjust? What strategies have you used to make it easier? Any help and advice would be appreciated…