Dear Forumosa posters,
I am new around here, never actually posted yet. So a little about myself, I work in Washington DC in international trade, specifically with Asia. I was working in Beijing a few years back when I met my Taiwanese girlfriend, who was studying in Beijing at the time, and we’ve been dating for a few years now. As I usually travel back and forth between the US and Asia, we’ve been doing long distance at times over the years. After I came back to the States last year to work in DC, I invited my gf to come with me, knowing full well that such an invitation would mean that our relationship was quite serious and that I would need to consider marriage as a possibility. Since she had never lived in the States before (she’s visited many times, at least 10 times), I wanted to give her a chance to actually live here for a while before considering whether or not we wanted to pursue marriage. I thought that this would give us a clear picture of what we both wanted, rather than blindly going forward and jumping into marriage before actually knowing that she was ready to live the rest of her life, or at least a majority of it, outside of your homeland. Since then, things have become difficult, as she is much less independent here than in Asia, and this strains our relationship because she likes to be independent. I cannot fault her for any of it, as she has honestly tried very hard to adapt, but it is very difficult to go from being totally independent woman working in the arts to coming to the US, where it is very difficult for a non-native English speaker to crack the this world. I’ve also made it known that I am not quite ready for marriage yet, but not because of her as I am truly committed to her, just where I am at personally I do not see marriage for another couple years, which further disheartens her, I am sure. She has begun thinking about moving back to Taiwan, and has asked if I would be interested in moving and working there as well. Although I have never lived in Taiwan, I have visited on numerous occasions, and would love to live there for a few years. However, in my heart, I am afraid that this would only mask the problem for a while, as I know eventually I would prefer to settle down in California, my home state.
I guess my question for all you Forumosa posters is, what is the job market like in Taiwan besides English teaching? And do you even think moving there is a good idea, or would it just be avoiding the real problem?
Thanks for any advice you may have, and I look forward to hearing from you all.