Hi, I hope to find some advice here. I am 40 something Western man and I started dating a 40 something colleague from Taiwan. Shortly after our first official date, my partner laid down a number of conditions to continue dating with the goal of developing a serious long term relation, which is what I am interested.
One of the conditions was a bit surprising. She asks me to give her every month half of my salary as tangible proof that I care about her. I have no control where the money goes. I can still live conformably with half of my salary. The amount transferred could easily sustain a family! She also works in the same company and she earns close what I earn.
I am puzzled whether this is a common practice in Taiwan and how finances are managed among couples.
She’ll tell him it’s because her sister’s classmate’s neighbour dated a foreigner before and he made her fall in love with him and then he went back to his home country. It broke the poor “naive” girl’s heart and now, because of that old chestnut of a wive’s tale, she just wants some insurance that he’ll stick around.
@katana if you aren’t trolling and you’re considering this for real… then let’s please have a talk, because I also want some money in exchange of… er… invaluable friendship.
It’s called “trust”. That’s the only insurance you get in a relationship and it’s the most important thing in any relationship. Without trust you have nothing.
Can I also ask what is the practice in married couples? She keeps telling me that men would turn all of their earnings over to their wife, so I am lucky she is only asking for half.