I can’t believe all the misplaced quips and smugness on this thread! Formosa has evidentally hit a stage where he/she accepts the fact that there’s a problem with alcohol, and is looking for help. I’m pretty open about a lot of things, but I do think that our regular members/moderators here ought to try to be a little more supportive. I have therefore split the posting about the Oriented happy hour from this thread and tucked it into the Restaurants forum where it belongs.
Formosa, I’ve known lots of alcoholics in Taiwan and elsewhere, and the ones who’ve tried to battle this illness have all had to change their lives drastically. Many having to form new healthier ‘addictions’, relationships, and lifestyles, in order to overcome the problem.
If you cannot find organized help here, which I believe you can if you follow the Community Center site, you will need to reevaluate your life and make a plan on how to proceed alcohol-free.
If you are now surrounded by friends/colleagues who go out drinking as the only entertainment, disassociate yourself from their world. It sometimes seems that the only way many expats know how to have fun in Taiwan is going out to clubs, doesn’t it? But this isn’t necessarily the case.
You can get involved in other activities if your heart is really into making a change.
Do you like sports such as hiking, biking, fishing, swimming, etc? If so, try engaging in these at the weekend. Taiwan has some fantastic trails to explore. Do you enjoy learning? Take classes in Chinese, painting, calligraphy, sculpture, tai chi, yoga, do a distance learning programme and get a higher degree, etc.
Move out of the city if you can. Downtown, it’s much easier to find yourself slung up at a pub every night of the week for lack of anything else to do.
I wouldn’t call myself alcoholic, more of a social drinkier, although when I go out sometimes, I do tend to overdo it. Now that I live a half hour away from my favourite ‘haunts’, I’m much less susceptable to the temptation. Now, I’ll go out once every two weeks, and I think my body appreciates that.
An anonymous forum such as segue is a good start to admitting your problem, but until you actually make some real changes in the way you live, it’s only talk.
I wish you the best of luck. Feel free to contact me if you have any questions. firstname.lastname@example.org