I think whether there are archetypes of relationships.
People always fall in love with those who have similar temperaments and characteristics so they make same mistakes over and over until they realize the patterns, and it is time to change.
So it doesn’t matter whether those two are from different cultures, people always look for something imprinted in their unconsciousness.
If your theory was true, then it wouldn’t be an archetype. It would just be the case of like attracting like.
Let us not limit the concept in people’s attraction.
It could be interaction patterns with your SO.
I came up with this idea is because a book I read long time ago suddenly came back to my memories. It classified relationships into 24 patterns.
For example, the first pattern is the “Teacher-Student Story”.
“A” in the relationship plays the role of “Teacher” and teaches(leads) his/her Student (SO) to explore or learn their live. When B is not satisfied with A’s teaching or leading, he/she maybe tries to look for another Teacher. B always needs a Teacher in his/her relationship.
I think most people wouldn’t be able to realize their pattern so I put it into unconsciousness level and adopt the concept: archetype.
[quote]“A” in the relationship plays the role of “Teacher” and teaches(leads) his/her Student (SO) to explore or learn their live. When B is not satisfied with A’s teaching or leading, he/she maybe tries to look for another Teacher. B always needs a Teacher in his/her relationship.
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Godammit! So that must be why its the damn teachers getting all the 'tang. Won’t someone PLEASE think of the editors?
[quote=“sandman”][quote]“A” in the relationship plays the role of “Teacher” and teaches(leads) his/her Student (SO) to explore or learn their live. When B is not satisfied with A’s teaching or leading, he/she maybe tries to look for another Teacher. B always needs a Teacher in his/her relationship.
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Godammit! So that must be why its the damn teachers getting all the 'tang. Won’t someone PLEASE think of the editors?[/quote]You really want to go around correcting the mistakes of others? What a drag. “No, no! Do this way… see? Ow! Not like that…”
Editor wanted. 
So my point is not clear at all, right?
Sandman’s an editor. He means that it’s not fair that everyone wants a teacher-student relationship. He wishes girls would be attracted to an editor archetype (him) instead of a teacher (someone exciting like me or Jaboney).
Fortunately, [quote=“kate.lin”]Editor wanted.[/quote]
And he lives close to you too! This could be the start of something wonderful, although Jaboney suggested why it may not be such a great idea. Do you really want a relationship with someone who will spot every little mistake you make and thinks that a red pen is a sex toy?
Anyway, the essence of your question is “are people always attracted to the same type of person?” Is that right?
I am a good student so I try my best to revise my example.
A in the relationship plays a role as a teacher, and B plays a role as a student. A teachers B to the way to learn new experiences from the world. As time goes by, B starts to feel that she can’t learn new thing from A, she becomes unsatisfied with A. B wants to look for another teacher so she end the relationship. B always needs a man as her teacher in her relationship.
Is it better?
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Anyway, the essence of your question is “are people always attracted to the same type of person?” Is that right?[/quote]
Right, that’s my original question. I get myself lost in this discussion.
It hard to curb my free association. Most of time, my ideas are mixed up.
I can’t think about this question clearly.
But men are all stupid. So unless you are really mentally unfortunate, that’s not a good pattern.
Having said that, shagging my Latin teacher certainly got me through ‘Ecce Romani’.
Matt Groening did a cartoon bit about the “nine types of relationships” in his strip Life in Hell. It was very funny, but damned if I can remember what they were.
[quote=“Buttercup”]But men are all stupid. So unless you are really mentally unfortunate, that’s not a good pattern.
Having said that, shagging my Latin teacher certainly got me through ‘Ecce Romani’.[/quote]
Unfortunately, I tend to have the “Teacher-Student” pattern.
That’s probably why I can’t explain my idea well with the “Teacher-Student” example.
Good Teacher wanted.
The 9 Types of Boyfriends
Joe Sensitive
“After I wash the dishes, let’s cuddle, OK?”
Also known as: Mr. Nice Guy, Family man, Honey, Darling, Soft-boiled Egg, Snugglepup
Advantages: Well-behaved; irons own shirts
Disadvantages: Irritatingly compassionate, wimpy
Old Man Grumpus
“People are stupid. The world can go to hell. Let’s stay home and watch TV.”
Also known as: Grumbles, Sour puss, Stick-in-the-mud, Old Fogey, Slow Mover, Jerk
Advantages: Stays put; predictable
Disadvantages: Royal pain in the ass
Flinchy
“I–I’m sorry for whatever it was I did.”
Also known as: Trembly, Creampuff, Hey you
Advantages: Jumps entertainingly when startled
Disadvantages: Easily spooked; surrenders without a struggle
Bigfoot
“Shut yer trap, I’m thinkin’.”
Also known as: Chunk-style, Lummox, Ignoramus, Galoot, the Hulk, Big ‘n’ Dumb
Advantages: Can tote bales; is easily fooled
Disadvantages: Can break you in half, sweats like a pig
Lazybones
“Zzzzzz”
Also known as: Lucky Dog, Parasite, Bum, Sponge, Snoozebucket, Drug Addict
Advantages: Well rested; easy target
Disadvantages: Unlikely to fulfull your dreams
The Sneak
“Who, me?”
Also known as: Love Pirate, Snake, Rat, Slime, G-D Son of a Bitch
Advantages: May feel pangs of guilt
Disadvantages: May be having time of his life
Ace of Hearts
“After I wash the dishes let’s make love like crazed weasels, OK?”
Also known as: The Sizzler, Handyman, Dreamboat, Casanova, Monster
Advantages: Perpetually aroused
Disadvantages: Perpetually aroused
The Dreamer
“Someday I’m going to be rich and famous. I don’t know how, but–”
Also known as: Struggling Artist, Philosopher, Buffoon, Bag of Wind
Advantages: Tells good stories
Disadvantages: Will turn into “Old Man Grumpus”
Mr. Right
“While the servants wash the dishes, let’s make love like crazed weasels in my new yacht, ok?”
Also known as: Mr. Perfect, Jim Dandy
Advantages: Answer to a woman’s prayer
Disadvantages: Hunted to extinction
The 9 Types of Girlfriends
Ms. Nice Guy
“Tickets to the boxing match? Oh, darling, you shouldn’t have!”
Also known as: Whattagal, Precious, one of the boys, My Main Squeeze, Doormat
Advantages: Cheerful, agreeable, kindly
Disadvantages: May wise up someday
Old Yeller
“You G-D spineless good-for-nothing drag-ass no-talent son of a bitch! Can’t you see you’re making me miserable??”
Also known as: She-Devil, Sourpuss, the Nag, My Old Lady, Warthog from Hell
Advantages: Pays attention to you
Disadvantages: Screeches, throws frying pans
Sickly
“Oh, my head. My head. My feet. My cramps. My cellulite.”
Also known as: Whiner, Mewler, Grumpy
Advantages: Predictable
Disadvantages: Contagious
The Bosser
“Stand up straight. Put on a different tie. Get a haircut. Change your job. Make some money. Don’t give me that look.”
Also known as: Whipcracker, The Sarge, Ms. Know-it-all, Ball and Chain, Yes Mom
Advantages: Often right
Disadvantages: Often right, but so what?
Ms. Vaguely Dissatisfied
“I just can’t decide. Should I switch my career, goals, home, and hair color?”
Also known as: The Fretter, Worrywart, Typical, Aw C’mon Honey
Advantages: Easily soothed
Disadvantages: Even more easily perturbed
Wild Woman out of Control
“I’ve got an idea. Lez get drunk an’ make love onna front lawn. I done it before. S’fun.”
Also known as: Fast Girl, Freewheeler, Goodtime Charleena, Passed Out
Advantages: More fun than a barrel of monkeys
Disadvantages: Unreliable; drives off cliffs
Huffy
“I see nothing humorous in those silly cartoons you keep snickering at.”
Also known as: No Fun, Humorless Prig, Cold fish, Chilly Proposition, Iceberg, Snarly
Advantages: Your friends will feel sorry for you
Disadvantages: You will have no friends
Woman from Mars
“I believe this interpretive dance will explain how I feel about our relationship.”
Also known as: The Babbler, Spooky Girl, Screwball, Loony, Bad News, Artistic
Advantages: Entertaining, unfathomable
Disadvantages: Will read her poetry aloud
Ms. Dreamgirl
“I am utterly content with you just the way you are, my handsome genius of a boyfriend. I think we must make love like crazed weasels now!”
Also known as: Ms. Right, Goddess, Knockout, Perfection, Gorgeous
Advantages: Funny, intelligent, uninhibited
Disadvantages: Will have nothing to do with you
^ Haha, that cracked me up.
I don’t really believe in patterns myself, because I tend to believe that we all don’t know what kind of people we’re dating until we find out what they really are like after we’ve dated them for some time. Unfortunately, if the majority of people all behave the same way, it may seem like we’re all dating the same type of people.
Well, you know Tigerman, it’s nice how your classifications totally ignore class, race, and ethnicitrity…in other words, all of modern America in the past three decades. But, since you haven’t actually been in America in thepast 30 years, or at least dated any American women in the past 30 years, your advice is forgiven.
I can think of at least one poster on here who is a teacher to their partner…
I can imagine the conversation…
A: Honey, you don’t think of me as your teacher do you?
B: No. How to say ‘dium dium’ in English?
A: Be quiet.
B… (Confused silence.)
Er, Q… That wasn’t mine and it wasn’t advice. It was an observation made by Matt Groening in a cartoon bit about the “nine types of relationships” in his comic/cartoon strip, Life in Hell.
In any event, I think those classifications, despite coming from a comic, transcend class, race and or ethnicity.
And btw, I travel to the US frequently… took five (5) trips to the US last year. I’ve been there once this year and will be there again later this month and at least twice more by the end of this year.
Your faulty assumptions are forgiven… 
Tigerman, you haven’t actually tried to date any American women in the past 20 to 30 years, unless you are cheating on your wife. So my assumptions are correct. You have been out of the game for a very, very long time. This is not the 1970s when saying, “Hey baby, what’s your sign?” at a disco would automatically get you laid. Things are a bit more difficult these days.
Wrong again, Q.
I came to Taiwan in 1985… I was fresh outta college and had an American Beauty of a Dead Head girl living with me.
So, your assumptions are indeed incorrect, again.
But, fret not. I forgive you, again…
Um, by my math, 1985 was 22 years ago.