well…I found I really wanna to know a boy recently.
He is a student in my universty,but we never have chances to know each other.
I’m a taiwanese girl,and he is a foreign guy.
So usually we go to classes at different classrooms.
I wanna to know him but I afraid of if I pick him up,he’ll feel I’m easy or like other taiwanese girls.
well…guys,can you teach me some ways I can talk to him and won’t make him feel strange?
And then maybe next time when I meet him I have courage to talk with him.
Ask him what sports he likes, if you’re lucky he’ll like Baseball, and if he drinks beer.
If he answers yes to both questions - Tell him you would like to get to know him.
If not, ask him why not. That’ll get a conversation started.
Of course this works better if he’s an American.
For other countries you might have to adjust the questions a bit.
Beware of ‘girlie man’ types.
I am no good at this kind of stuff but here is my advice anyway.
[quote=“diorberry”]I wanna to know him but I afraid of if I pick him up,he’ll feel I’m easy…[/quote]I think most guys feel fine if a girl makes the first move. I suggest just starting a regular conversation with him. Ask him questions about his study, whether he has any hobbies etc. But obviously not a whole lot of questions all at the same time. Also tell him some things about yourself. Just keep the conversation on a light friendly level.
I understand what you mean about not wanting to seem “easy”. But I think that by starting to have friendly, interesting conversations with him it will be fine.
Yeah, that bit’s easy. It’s the part about walking up to a strange guy and starting a conversation when she has no reason to and she doesn’t even know if he even speaks Chinese that she is wondering about, I think.
Ask for help with something you know he can do that isn’t English related. Or ask if he needs help with something you think he needs help with.
A fellow student, catch him some time and tell him you are on your way to study and ask him to join. You can take some pressure off yourself by inviting him to study with you and friends as long as the friends aren’t going to make him uncomfortable.
Drop your books right in front of him. While he’s helping you to pick them up, intoduce yourself and ask his name.
Tomorrow, say something nice. From there it wil get easy.
About 5 years after you get married, admit that you dropped the books on purpose.
Why don’t girls ever just walk up and say “Hi.” ??
off topic …but a mate of mine did something similar to meet his wife.
Everyday he would get on at the same tube station as her and sit directly across from her and do The Times crossword very quickly. She saw this and thought he was super intelligent. They got talking, fell in love and a few months after he admitted he was just putting letters in boxes to see if he could score a good-looking woman… Bless
[quote=“Buttercup”]Yeah, that bit’s easy. It’s the part about walking up to a strange guy and starting a conversation when she has no reason to and she doesn’t even know if he even speaks Chinese that she is wondering about, I think.[/quote]Well, I know it’s not easy. She might feel a bit weird just walking up to the guy and starting a conversation. But that’s all it takes really – just asking him a friendly question, whether it be about study or any other everyday thing.
I don’t think he will be shocked, surprised, or anything like that. I think he should be pleased. I always am whenever girls start a conversation with me. But if he isn’t, well never mind and at least she will have tried.
Or do you have a better suggestion?
[quote=“joesax”][quote=“Buttercup”]Yeah, that bit’s easy. It’s the part about walking up to a strange guy and starting a conversation when she has no reason to and she doesn’t even know if he even speaks Chinese that she is wondering about, I think.[/quote]Well, I know it’s not easy. She might feel a bit weird just walking up to the guy and starting a conversation. But that’s all it takes really – just asking him a friendly question, whether it be about study or any other everyday thing.
I don’t think he will be shocked, surprised, or anything like that. I think he should be pleased. I always am whenever girls start a conversation with me. But if he isn’t, well never mind and at least she will have tried.
Or do you have a better suggestion?[/quote]
Obviously not or I would have written it, if we’re being snippy! (I don’t pick up guys. Never have, never will. ) Obviously a male perspective is required, here…
Let HIM notice YOU!
So let’s ask the guys: Gents, what will make you notice a girl (edit) in a positive way?
[quote=“stan”]Gents, what will make you notice a girl?[/quote]You mean in a positive way? Hard to say really. Once or twice in the past girls have been trying to get me to notice them but I haven’t noticed at all.
Does it have to be this kind of game-playing stuff? What’s wrong with her just starting up a friendly conversation with him?
What is it that makes you want him?
That is a major question that the answer to might influence your path.
[quote=“SuchAFob”]What is it that makes you want him?
That is a major question that the answer to might influence your path.[/quote]
If you can’t be with the one you love, love the one with your with!
[quote=“SuchAFob”]What is it that makes you want him?
That is a major question that the answer to might influence your path.[/quote]
I just interested at him.He is cute and look like friendly…
Do you know anything about him?
Sitt down with him and and just say hello. Ask where he’s from and if he learn chinese yet and how it is going.
Where do you live and from there the conversation should continue by itself.
I find it interesting when locals sitt down with me to have a chat.
Since he’s a forigner student maybe he budget is limted and he nead to pay rent and stuff so he might be interested in a invitation to go somewhere for a snack or something once in a while, but maybe not the first time.
I know this would work on me.
and be yourself.
If you can’t be with the one you love, love the one with your with![/quote]
You never know how diffcult it is.
What is the most standard question we “always” get from strangers here:
Hi, where are you from?
etc
etc
not very much.but I’m sure he came to taiwan for learning chinese!