I’ve heard bi-annual prostate massages by a comely nurse are covered by national health insurance in France and that men (straight and gay) take full advantage of it. Can any French people confirm this rumour?
As a straight guy, I can definitely vouch for the pleasure of being penetrated. A finger or a thin dildo are very pleasurable, though I have no idea about larger implements like penises, bottles and bowlings pins. A light residual mucous will be on your finger or dildo afterwards, which is easily washed off, but it’s not as disgusting as you’re probably imagining it might be. You can’t compare the experience to a doctor’s exam, because neither of you are trying to have fun! You have to do it in relaxed intimate conditions. You don’t even need to move the finger/dildo in and out, sometimes it’s fun just having something gently lodged up your ass.
Being open to anal penetration is no different than being open to experimenting in any aspect of your life. If you’re risk-loving enough to move from your comfortable life in the English speaking world to a small Asian island where you don’t speak the language at all initially, I can’t imagine you’d be afraid to try a little thing like anal stimulation. Most of us have a naturally negative visceral reaction to the idea of inserting things in the poop shoot. But hell, you only live 60-70 years or so. Worse case you find out it’s not for you! Best case, you discover a new type of orgasm!!
For your first time, I would suggest having your girlfriend lightly touch you up and down your crack, where the skin is very sensitive because it’s never touched in this way. That should be enough to get you so teased and worked up that you’re temped to ask her to insert her finger.
PS: Some people have mentioned unprotected anal sex, and at the risk of sounding preachy, don’t we all know how crazy that is? Due to the nature of the tissues in the anus, HIV transmission is much more likely with unprotected anal sex than unprotected vaginal sex.