What kind of "family values" do/will YOU emulate?
- Similar to what you grew up with (“western” values)
- Similar to what you see here (“Chinese” values)
- A combination of both
- A third value system (please elaborate)
After all these years, I am becoming more and more cynical when I hear people here talking earnestly about “Chinese Family Values”. The truth is, I see very little about family life here to emulate. Husbands and wives don’t communicate like they do in the west, parents have no idea what goes on with their children, especially adult children. Divorce rates among the Taiwanese people I know are through the roof. The only aspects of family closeness here seem to involve obligation and duty rather than genuine love and respect. More often than not, there’s a financial angle. Then there’s this story from today’s China Post. I’m reprinting it here, because it looks like this link is only temporary…If the link is still up in a couple of days, I’ll remove the story.
[quote][color=green]An HIV-positive grandmother, who also suffered from intestinal cancer and was abandoned by her sons, passed away after fasting for two months, the United Evening News reported yesterday. The woman, a grandmother of a dozen, was sent to an AIDS halfway house by her children after being testing positive for HIV during her stay at a final-stage cancer patient hospital.
Only her eldest son visited her after she checked into the halfway house. However, he didn’t dare come close to her and just waved to her from a distance without entering her room, according to the report.
The son told the volunteer workers at the halfway house that the whole family felt disgraced by the grandmother. While the volunteer workers suspected that the grandmother could have caught the virus from her husband, the son insisted that she must have contracted the virus during surgery.
Depressed, rejected and ashamed of herself, the grandmother chose to end her life by fasting. The report did not specify exactly when she passed away. She died two weeks after entering the center due to malnutrition, according to the report.[/color] [/quote]
What a disgrace. I hope the poor woman’s children and grandchildren rot in hell. :x
I never fully appreciated my Leave-It-To-Beaver, white-bread, church-on-Sunday nuclear-family childhood until I moved to Taiwan, and even then, I was so caught up in the exoticness of being in “the Orient” (it’s a different culture, don’t you know), that it’s only been the last several years that I’ve felt able to start making value judgements. Honestly, I don’t like what I see. Thank God, my girl feels the same way. If she were the “traditional Chinese family” kind, I don’t think we’d make it.
Here’s a link to a related story on fear of AIDS patients in today’s Taipei Times, which mentions this case.