I’m minding my own business doing some design work at home when on the security cam monitor in my office I happened to notice some woman on the small, quiet street right outside my front door setting her 5-ish year old daughter up to take a pee in the drain which is 40cm away from my front gate… I live in a typical semi detached house with a small, walled off garden in front, on a quiet street in the Eastern extremities of Taichung… In the past, the trashy retired neighbors who illegally run a hair dresser business next door to me were in the habit of taking the kids they apparently, and no doubt illegally, take care of while their folks are at work over to said drain to relieve themselves and I had told them in no uncertain terms to desist… I was aware that children being made to use public drains as toilets is common (in every sense of the word) practice in Taiwan, but told them that if they insisted on personal hygiene practices from the dark ages that they could do whatever they liked with the drains outside their own house, but to stay the hell away from the one immediately outside my front door… So, back to this afternoon and I decided that since the woman and kid in question had walked over from the direction of said neighbors before the peeing commenced, that this may be a prime chance for some more negative reinforcement training…
As I opened my front gate the woman was getting the kid’s pants back on and I said to her (in Chinese of course, this isn’t Taipei), “Does this look like a toilet to you?”… To which she replied, “Oh… The kid was desperate, buhaoyisi.”… I asked her why, since she was already hanging out in the neighbor’s street level front room/hair salon, did she not take the kid to use the first floor toilet in their house instead of bringing her outside to piss in the drain, or if the kid was so desperate why didn’t she take the kid to piss in the drain immediately outside the neighbor’s house rather than taking to the time to come over to the drain outside mine… Visibly irate and already muttering at being called out on her inconsiderate and unhygienic third world behavior she darted back into the neighbor’s to get some water to wash the pee down the drain (the kid missed the actual grate) leaving the kid standing somewhat dumbstruck in the street outside my door… Already feeling bad for the ankle biter I said, “Don’t worry, you didn’t do anything wrong, you’re not in trouble.” but just while I was doing so the woman returned with a small pale of water and in a very obnoxious and hostile manner started snapping, “Is this good enough? Is this good enough?”… To which I said, “No, it’s not… What I’m complaining about isn’t your cleanup method but the fact you assume it’s okay to have your kid pissing in a drain when there’s a perfectly functional bathroom easily available.”… Now mildly furious at the loss of face and the fact I wasn’t letting her get away with it, she raised her voice and barked, “I’ve washed the pee away… What do you want?..”… Being somewhat peeved by her belligerence I told her that what I wanted was for her to explain to me what her objection to using a toilet was, but more than that, why she obviously didn’t want to use the much closer drain immediately outside her friend’s front room which is open to the street, but was happy to come and foul the area right at my front door 5 meters down the road, especially considering the kid was supposedly so desperate… At this point she must have run through the “small town Taiwanese loss of face mental flowchart” and reached the point after “Say-buhaoyisi-insincerely-and-sulk” which is apparently “Violently-take-leave-of-your-senses-and-start-screeching-like-a-banshee”…
Out of nowhere she goes incandescent with rage and starts screaming at the top of her lungs about what’s the matter with me, she washed the piss away and what do I want from her, bastard foreigner go home, how dare you keep hassling me about this, etc etc… Mid tantrum, she suddenly grabs the youngster and starts wailing on the kid with her flat hand and with the empty water bucket, shaking the child and screaming “you see what you did, you see what you did!”… She then fairly violently pushed the youngster to the ground and continued giving the kid a hiding with the empty water container… Even before her histrionics began her friends from next door and some geriatric folks from a couple of other houses had came out to see what the commotion was all about since there’s nothing they like better than a bit of low brow amateur dramatics… Thankfully they were standing right by her and pulled the psychotic woman away from the kid and attempted to subdue her as she was writhing with rage and lashing out at the poor little sod who was needless to say scared witless and in tears… The lunatic mother calmed down for a second then came at me brandishing her water bucket and shrieking before she was again dragged away to some deliberately restrained but heartfelt, “You’re the bloody adult here, you should know better than to blame the child for something you forced her to do you bloody ignorant peasant!” jibes from me… The bystanders were all somewhat shocked at the woman’s violent outburst and gradually slunk away, most of them back into the neighbor’s front room…
I’d chalk this up as just another day in the festering Confucion cauldron of contempt for your fellow man that is central Taiwan, but I really feel bad for the kid… I mean the woman is obviously several fruity hats short of a Mardi Gras and an unfit mother to boot, and had I known the end result would be a traumatized innocent youngster I’d obviously not have chided the woman as pointedly, but that’s the dilemma in and of itself… I’m all for sophomoric armchair sociology, blah, blah, cultural relativism and all that, but this woman’s behavior even before her violent outburst was devious, selfish, uncouth and unhygienic by anyone’s standards, to say nothing of her cowardly attack on her innocent daughter… Should I just have let it slide and said nothing in the name on Confucian harmony?.. Am I to blame for the poor little nipper crying herself to sleep tonight?.. Are we all to be held hostage to the potential psychoses and disproportionate responses of those who flagrantly disregard basic consideration for others, doomed to being the eternal victims of the lowest dregs of the Taiwanese social echelons for fear of rocking the cultural boat?..