Crossing the biscuit: That damn outlaw, sorry: in-law!

first, thanks to my mother-in law for puttin in a good word or two.
I basically done bad by telling my father in law to "Fuck Off! in his own living room.

bad move on my part, i know, yet it’s high time he heard it.
i was bringing my son’s stag beetle, and his sister’s bike over. Not to mention a mass of bubbles.
He made some shite ass comments.
Making my son cry, as he was told to throw his beetle out!
i challenged him. The ol’un!
He didn’t like that.
He told me to leave, pushing my shoulder.
I told him to fuck off, finger in the face. Laid it on good and thick while we waited for the cops to arrive. Told him in no uncertain terms that he was a mindfugger. He opted for the mouse version, and, it grew in grandeur with every utterance.

Thankfully, the two cops were most exemplary, even speaking extra slowly for themingergan.

I apologized, with full frontal face loss, yet in his heart I know he’s written me off.
Those waigworen are just too damn loud!
And they convert the womenfolk!

Is there something that can be done, apart from surrendering to the void?

He needed to learn you can’t cross another man’s biscuit.

Yet, he’ll go to bed learning nothing.

Backdoor victory if you ask me.

Did you shove the beetle up his ass?

btw, I did recently learn the Chinese word for “barbarian.” :smiley:

Backdoor victory if you ask me.

Did you shove the beetle up his ass?

btw, I did recently learn the Chinese word for “barbarian.” :smiley:[/quote]

Oh, surly, thou art most apt!

the beetle is MIA, 350 nt worth of .....
If I find out who'se responsible for it's early demise, well, it won't be pretty....

I betcha he’s on his flob screaming to his surly peers about how the bakka foreigner shouted him down in his own house and he called the coppers on yer ass and got your to kowtow to him while the wife stood by mumbling “Bu yong chi. Bu yong chi.”

hahaheeheehoho and so googogoes life in the sticks.

Write a book.

Then you did the right thing. Right?

How did the wives and kids handle it?

To me it just seems like people here have no respect if you’re a foreginer and it ends up being an argument of any kind. We’ve had some shit with our neighbour (not the same kind of stuff, I know), and everyone has told us that we must’ve done something first as she’s an old lady and she just can’t be nuts. We’ve been told by the security company to sue her, yet they won’t back us up, nor does the neighbours, even though they hate the womans guts.

I think he was told what you needed to get off your chest and it if nothing else, at least it helped you to vent your anger a bit, without things going over the top. Calling to cops on your “family” sounds like a sad thing to do though and it sounds like the guy really doesn’t have any balls at the end of the day. Though to have someone like that as your in-law though.

Stuff like this goes on for years and years. I’d go low profile for a while, because I doubt the guy is going to talk it out civilly with you over tea and cookies.

Next time you see him, be super cheerful, gleeful even. Laugh at everything, but not at him. You’re in love with life. He can’t hurt you, doesn’t dictate your moods.

In these sorts of situations, sometimes the only tactic available to you is manipulation.

You know exactly what I mean, soldier.

[quote=“surly”]I betcha he’s on his flob screaming to his surly peers about how the bakka foreigner shouted him down in his own house and he called the coppers on yer ass and got your to kowtow to him while the wife stood by mumbling “Bu yong chi. Bu yong chi.”

hahaheeheehoho and so googogoes life in the sticks.

Write a book.[/quote]
No shit, man.
Every fargin day!..

He won’t use ‘bakka’, I would surmise. I used it to it’s fullest extent last night.
:wink:

Excellent, and most poignant question. Except, I have not yet mastered this polygamy angle.
Wife: not there, though of course she was not impressed by the after-action reports…
Son: Bawling his eyes out. Loss of beetle, adults yelling… he thought it was his fault. I gave him a pep talk after, and he’ll have another when he wakes up. He knows it’s MY fault.
Daughter: Sat there stoically observing the whole show. Eating papaya like it was all just another movie. After, on the street, whilst I was talking to the cops, she ran right up, grabbed my leg, and told me “i love you, daddy…”, before spinning off to play with a dog or two.
My value just went up.

It was indeed a vent. I could hear myself yelling, yet it was all like freeze frame forward. It was too late in the day, a little too much stout, tired, weary, and angst-filled. I’m in the midst of moving house & home, it creeps up on one.
I should have phrased it much more eloquently.
At least I scored well on the emphasis!

[quote=“tomas”]Stuff like this goes on for years and years. I’d go low profile for a while, because I doubt the guy is going to talk it out civilly with you over tea and cookies.

Next time you see him, be super cheerful, gleeful even. Laugh at everything, but not at him. You’re in love with life. He can’t hurt you, doesn’t dictate your moods.

In these sorts of situations, sometimes the only tactic available to you is manipulation.

You know exactly what I mean, soldier.[/quote]

i do, i do. 'Cept I ain’t no soljer!
More of a Pongo, likesay!

And as such, your wisdom rings true once more.
I shall raise the flag of glee from here on in.

Thanks for your sentiments, folks.
Gotta get back to moving.
Narley!

[quote]Wife: not there, though of course she was not impressed by the after-action reports…
Son: Bawling his eyes out. Loss of beetle, adults yelling… he thought it was his fault. I gave him a pep talk after, and he’ll have another when he wakes up. He knows it’s MY fault.
Daughter: Sat there stoically observing the whole show. Eating papaya like it was all just another movie. After, on the street, whilst I was talking to the cops, she ran right up, grabbed my leg, and told me “i love you, daddy…”, before spinning off to play with a dog or two.
My value just went up.
[/quote]
This is all that matters.
Onward thru the Fog!
CTM.

Some is having all the fun while I am exiled to shores far away from the beautiful isle.

I once had my brother in law berating me and I ignored it. I wish that I had shown your courage under fire.

Your ball and chain is hopefully commiserating with you, and you should grow a fair bit in your boy’s eyes.

I hope that we can sit and talk about that and other inlaws transgressions once my exile ends.

Well done soldier.

Ginger, I meant wives as in mother in law as well as your wifey. Glad it everything worked out though.

[quote=“Mr He”]Some is having all the fun while I am exiled to shores far away from the beautiful isle.

I once had my brother in law berating me and I ignored it. I wish that I had shown your courage under fire.

Your ball and chain is hopefully commiserating with you, and you should grow a fair bit in your boy’s eyes.

I hope that we can sit and talk about that and other inlaws transgressions once my exile ends.

Well done soldier.[/quote]
Fun?
You degenerate & depraved Dane!
Are you well & truly Faksed?
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Faxe_Brewery

This ain’t no gymnastics, over here.
There was no courage.
Only impulse.

When is our great dane due back?
i’ll need your help soon enough!

TC is right.
Kids First!
Protect the innocent!

Spot on Sir.

I am on my tenth bottle of the stuff, It is however only the standard 220ML bottles, and not the 1 liter cans my brother and I like to drink.

(Me to mum - we will only have 3 beers tonight mum, no worries).

Well the riot act is there to be read to the ones in need.

[quote=“Mr He”]Spot on Sir.

I am on my tenth bottle of the stuff, It is however only the standard 220ML bottles, and not the 1 liter cans my brother and I like to drink.

(Me to mum - we will only have 3 beers tonight mum, no worries).

Well the riot act is there to be read to the ones in need.[/quote]

Fakse It!
Bottles are the way to go. Cans are meant for pogues, unless it’s a litre, or course.
As for the riot act, that should have been transmitted from my visage.
You know I have no patience.

I’m not really sure what to say.

I know a lot of people are encouraging and cheering you on about what you did, but I truly think the diplomatic and non-yelling route would have been more appropriate.

Of course I can’t speak for you, it seems like this In-Law is such a pain. Like, A real real pain. If my child (I don’t have one, but in the future, preferribly a long time from now), was treated terribly, I would never ever forgive that person. I think in Asain families, or at least in some Asain families the treatment towards children can be really rough. The thing that always gets me is the “treat your kid like crap, and the more you love him the more you will treat him like crap.” Of course, this is not true in all Asain families, but in some that’s how it is. In the future when I get married, I couldn’t imagine letting my In-laws belittle my son or daughter. I would love them too much to let that happen.

Anyhow, To be honest I think you shouldn’t marry a woman if the in-laws are terrible, those are going to be the kids grandparents and in my opinion just not a good idea. But since your already married and probably love your wife and children a lot, I just wanted to say that all in all, maybe standing up to your In-law, at least in that way was probably not the most appropriate thing.

I have two reasons for saying this:

The first one is that you think your son is to blame for this mess. Even though you are going to tell him its your fault, the poor kid is probably tramautized and this was probably not a good experience to have in the first place.

Secondly, You lost so much face, maybe you didn’t have any face to begin with, with this In-law. But either way the little you had you lost. Calling the cops is terrible, bad on his part, that just shows how terrible he is, and probably how scared of you he was. But, I’m sure the wife is upset, and maybe the parents keep telling and critizing you with your wife or etc, I just don’t see how much good could come from this.

Well, I hope good does come from this, as it does happen from time to time. I;m not you so I wouldn’t know what to do. I personally don’t think what you did was the right thing. But I will say that you definitly have balls to do something like that, I couldn’t help but chuckle a little over your story.

Also did you use mostly chinese, how fluent are you? And when the cops came did you only use english?

[quote=“Rabidpie”]I’m not really sure what to say.

I know a lot of people are encouraging and cheering you on about what you did, but I truly think the diplomatic and non-yelling route would have been more appropriate.

Of course I can’t speak for you, it seems like this In-Law is such a pain. Like, A real real pain. If my child (I don’t have one, but in the future, preferribly a long time from now), was treated terribly, I would never ever forgive that person. I think in Asain families, or at least in some Asain families the treatment towards children can be really rough. The thing that always gets me is the “treat your kid like crap, and the more you love him the more you will treat him like crap.” Of course, this is not true in all Asain families, but in some that’s how it is. In the future when I get married, I couldn’t imagine letting my In-laws belittle my son or daughter. I would love them too much to let that happen.

Anyhow, To be honest I think you shouldn’t marry a woman if the in-laws are terrible, those are going to be the kids grandparents and in my opinion just not a good idea. But since your already married and probably love your wife and children a lot, I just wanted to say that all in all, maybe standing up to your In-law, at least in that way was probably not the most appropriate thing.

I have two reasons for saying this:

The first one is that you think your son is to blame for this mess. Even though you are going to tell him its your fault, the poor kid is probably tramautized and this was probably not a good experience to have in the first place.

Secondly, You lost so much face, maybe you didn’t have any face to begin with, with this In-law. But either way the little you had you lost. Calling the cops is terrible, bad on his part, that just shows how terrible he is, and probably how scared of you he was. But, I’m sure the wife is upset, and maybe the parents keep telling and critizing you with your wife or etc, I just don’t see how much good could come from this.

Well, I hope good does come from this, as it does happen from time to time. I;m not you so I wouldn’t know what to do. I personally don’t think what you did was the right thing. But I will say that you definitly have balls to do something like that, I couldn’t help but chuckle a little over your story.

Also did you use mostly Chinese, how fluent are you? And when the cops came did you only use English?[/quote]
thanks for your input.
Obviously the diplomatic route would have been best. However, given my current condition & environment, that was not an option.
I don’t give a shite about my face. There’s enough mud on it from previous employment.
All I care about, as any reliable parent would do, is the care & protection of the younglings.
You have not yet spawned, so one can’t expect much in the way of recognition.
As for the actual linguistic angle, I swore in English, and talked realpolitrick in Chinese.

I must add, that the two cops were marvelous. As I said prior, they spoke Mandarin real slow for this dumb hick. Even gave me a sage lecture about cross-cultural sensitivity! No cop in NorthAmerica would have been so patient, nor drunk the sodas I bought them. They even took my jibes about cleaning/firing their weapons in good humour.
Outstanding!

I remember a concept not too long ago about raising children by Western standards and I think we called it: Tough Love.

How the heck did this conversation do a fuckin’ twirl and end up about parenting? I think Ginger did well…simple as that. He has to explain to his boy, so what? His daughter thinks he’s a hero, good show. Mother in law is MIA…so is the wife but I’d venture to guess that they had to suffer this father/husband (your FIL) for a long time. Meh…time will tell, right?