Lots of my friends’ parents and my own parents seem to believe in us kids marrying inside our own circle ie someone of similar education, socio-economic background, language, ethnicity, etc. etc.
Their rationalization is that these marriages may have better chance in the long term, less friction, less pressure.
My own take is that I’m very skeptical as many of these parents have failed marriages, extramarital affairs, unhappy family life, etc.
That said, I suppose some of that commonality might make it easier to bond. Language in a place like Taiwan, with this expat community, seems to be a non-issue in the long run for those that marry. Education and interests… well… to be frank… I wouldn’t want to talk shop with my gf/wife, and I don’t expect her to have the same reading interests as me. That’s what I have guy friends for.
So I’m just curious about your experiences, have you ever dated someone with an upbringing radically different from yours. For e.g. you have a degree, she didn’t finish high school, but became a full-time athlete at an early age. You speak English, she speaks Chinese, and a sprinkling of English. etc. etc. You’ve lived in many cities; she’s never left the country. I mean, sure, there may be love now, but will those differences, in the long run, be tough to deal with?