Yes, I am anti-abortion. This is my personal conviction and I make no excuses for it. I am not trying to tell anyone else what they should or shouldn’t do. And I did not say that abortion is not an option, I said it’s not a soultion.
On this thread, before I posted, there were numerous people giving advice to abort, even detailed info on how the abortion pill works. There wasn’t advice about other options (other than braxtgonhicks post for adoption agancy numbers), or even advice about what happenes after the abortion.
There is no simple solution to this situation. Abortion doesn’t just get rid of a problem the same as taking an antibiotic clears up an infection. I’ve known may friends who’ve had abortions and not one of them has ever been able to just forget it entirely and just get on with their lives. There are still things to deal with. You make a choice with abortion, basically, to live with what could have been, not to live like nothing ever happened. That is not something many people every talk about, and it wasn’t discussed here.
Adoption has some of the same results. You may not know your child as it grows up. You still look at other children in a park or wherever and think of your own. But you MAY know him/her. You may know him/her when they’re an adult. You may not. But you don’t have to try and convince youself that your child was better off dead than in you care. That is not a sentament that’s very conductive to getting on with the rest of your life.
And let me just say this about raising your child. No one is ever ready. Yes, there are couples who try for years before they have a child. Yes, there are women who chose to be single mothers when they find themselves still single at 35. But finding out that you really are pregnant is and enormous thing, no matter where you’re at in your life at the time. You can’t help but think of all that’s ahead and wonder if your up to it. I know single mothers. My mother was a single mother. Yes, I’d say it’s much harder than being married with children. But it’s a challenge either way.
Also, I did not say that having or raising the baby would cause her to automatically love and cherrish it. I said it gave her a CHANCE to. And kids with 2 parents get abused and neglected, too, so I can’t see that the fact that she might feel overwhelmed and resentful toward her child(especially with no obvious indecators like being very young, drug or alcohol abuse) should be a factor in deciding weather or not to have her child. She may feel those things and NOT abuse her child, after all.
Definitely, I’d say that the fact that she accidentally became pregnant is not an indicaton that she wouldn’t be a good parent. Lotts of stable married couples also become pregnant accidentally. Birth controle becomes routine, like jotting an expense in the checkbook, and how many times have you ever forgotten to do that?
