Hi
I’m just wondering how you deal with it. A friend of mine was married to the model who is in the Lexus ad( the girl who gives the key to the carguard and then his hat blows off) And now, every time I see the ad, I think of my friend crying her eyes out. I wonder how she deals with it…
When I think of how I dealt with it in the past, I can’t imagine seeing that person hooking up with someone else…nevermind famous stars that has to have it rubbed in their faces.
Go through the whole process of crying, cutting, throwing and phoning every friend you’ve got to moan and weep and scream. That helps.
Then…
Have lotsa sex with people who are better-looking and younger than the ex.
Have the ex’s new girl cheat on him/her by making out with her yourself.
Make sure you’re looking fabulous. Get a new haircut, some new outfits, etc.
The early, crazy, revenge time after a break-up is sometimes necessary to get over the whole thing. But it shouldn’t last too long. After all that, you need to realize that you can live without that person, that there are other cool people out there, and that you are actually able to have fun again on your own. I don’t think the fact that a person is famous makes much of a difference. Non-famous people can pop up anywhere too. Especially in Taipei.
If steps 1-4 continue for too long it might be time to go for some therapy.
yes, usually obsessing over someone new, or someone in a band helps!!!
twonavels…when you ever walk past SaltPepper in Shida, go look at the art exhibit…looks like it was painted with blood. Not sure…maybe you can give your expert opinion
I usually open up a (or a few) bottle(s) of wine and have my friend who just broke up with her ex talk about all of her relationship details. Then offer constructive thoughts about her relationship, why it failed and how she could help not repeating the same mistakes.
I don’t remember how I delt with break ups, and I don’t remember doing anything in particular. Mostly just thinking a lot about what happened in the past and how I don’t repeat the same mistakes in the future. It was quite depressing at times, no doubt about it, but I’m not the kind of person who dwells on the sadden past.
Date someone new, try to identify your traits that need improving (things you really feel you need to do better, not necessarily things your ex says she hates.) Even if this new relationship doesn’t work out you will feel that you grew and became independent of your last SO. Also it will give you confidence that you are able to date different kinds of people- broaden your horizons and so on. I guess having sex with random people would work too but thats never happened to me, not yet. MUAHAHAHA!
MY last Taiwanese girlfriend gave me the bad news over coffee. That her mom doesn’t like me and that she is going to lose the apartment her mom is going to give her if she continues on with me, so I am history!! And shes happy to give me all the time I need to get over her !! And besides she liked the tour guide on her last european tour and wants to hang with him! And this was a girl who I been going with for two years, so it wasnt a weekend romance kind of thing.
Who said Taiwanese girls are not progressive?
p.s. oh and she had mentioned that the reason I couldnt get ahold of her during the night that I kept on calling when she was on the tour was that she was actually hanging out with the tour guide in his room till 3am. But although she was in her jammies and both of them were on the bed that “nothing happened, just a lot of kissing” Yes yes, I really AM as stupid as I look !
p.p.s she didnt get her tour guide either as he ended up marrying another Taiwanese girl on another tour who he also no doubt spent a lot of time kissing on the bed in his room late at night. And no doubt nothing happened then either.
I have to say I agree with stray dog. You have to be willing to look at the good that you got out of the relationship. Aswell as learn from it so you can apply what you learned in your future relationships. Thats what I chose to do after I just got out of relationship with a lady for 5 1/2 years. The thing is that the one I’m in now has givin me more happiness and enjoyment. Than I got out of all the the 5 1/2 years with the last. So you have to belive that the best has yet to come and look ahead for a better future. I wish your friend luck in the future.
Yes yes, I really AM as stupid as I look !