I just want to throw in a funny, related story from my own recent experience.
When I was at my girlfriend’s family’s home for Chinese New Year, they were very polite. Weeks before, however, my girlfriend’s Mom was very adamant that she should not marry me. However, when she learned that I was flexible about things such as caring for her (the mother) and supplying her with monthly money (according to our income), as well as that I planned to stay in Taiwan for the long-term, and I was open to sharing the house title with my girlfriend when we buy a home, etc… She became more patient.
I knew that I was in when, after dinner, I overheard the mom telling my girlfriend’s aunt and sister “I’m just so thankful he’s not a black man.”
My advice is to figure out precisely what the parents expect from an ideal boyfriend, and try to be that for your girlfriend and have her stick up for you. Also, try to meet the parents and show you are open to having them in your life, if they’ll accept you. In my opinion, if a foreign boyfriend isn’t willing to conform to the culture of the country he’s in when it comes to marrying and dating locals, he simply has no business marrying or dating locals. You may think the idea of sending 10,000 a month, or paying a brideprice, is bizarre, but, well, that’s just the way it is. Suck it up.
NOTE TO NEWCOMERS: This was relevant and part of a discussion on what to expect when you meet the parents of your Taiwanese girlfriend who do not approve of you. This post was very popular and caused quite a stir, so it shit-stormed out of control into the WW2 of a thread that you see here. Thank you for reading this, now you’re informed.