Have you ever drank a drop of alcohol in your life?
I cannot trust people who have never been outside their own consciousness in their life - released from the mundane reality of reality - and I don’t care if that’s by beer, marijuana, caffeine, LSD, Christ, Buddha, walking on hot coals and whipping yourself firewhips to get in touch with the god of the temple…it’s all the same. Don’t mistake me and think that I am against mind-altering influences such as alcohol, hallucinogens, and ritual religions…I’m all for those things, within moderation. Preferably all combined, as they do in Brazil.
The one thing I’m noticing in this thread are guys meantioning women who are a bit obessive in their pursuit. I believe the OP was merely asking if guys like it if the women makes the first move.
Not make the first move, get rejected and still decides to pursue situation. That would turn anyone off.
Would it be a problem if a woman were to pursue a man, similarly to how a man would pursue a woman. Let’s say ask him out every so often, even after he’s turned her down?
Never been pursued by a woman, wouldnt know. But am sure that I would like it if I like her? And have had ladies make the first move. And definitely like that !!
When I was younger, women chased me quite a bit. I got used to never having to deal with asking people out and getting rejected and all that stuff.
Now, the tables have turned. I’m learning that a few girls are finding me ok, and I have to ask them out and go from there. Gotta take the bull by the horns and all that. It’s a bit difficult here for me, and I find that many women are not shy to say things like “you’re fat” or “you’re not very tall”, even if they don’t really mean anything by it. It’s a bit ego deflating.
Now where is that thread about “first dates” again?
That’s a thought. If you get turned down once, but after the passage of some time like a few months or years or decades, would you do it again to see if they had changed their mind or call a spade a spade and drop it?
Most modern men enjoy the chase just as much as women, but be wary about the ones that don’t know when to just stop the charade and give you a definite answer.
If a guy turned you down once and gave you an explanation, try asking him again a few months/years later if you still feel that strongly about him. If he turns you down again then drop it and accept being friends. You are prolly friends with him to start with to be able to have the opp to ask him a second time, right?
Every question has an answer. In this case, demand one nicely and flirtingly. And don’t get all pouty and bitchy if he turns you down. Sour grapes is not attractive. Everyone wins sometimes, but no one wins all the time, right?
Taking a “no” as a definite “no” the second time you ask is a good tip…in Western culture. But Chinese is the culture of the “three times” rule, isn’t it?
I’d also like to know the answer to that question Quintin.
Do asian/chinese girls usually turn the guy down the first time and you have to ask again?
I have this situation now, i asked this girl out, she said “ahh you are really nice but (insert excuse here)”
and i have heard that most times they will not say yes the first time when you ask them out so as to not appear easy.
If this is the case, i wonder how long it is a good idea to wait before asking again or am i just crazy :loco:
[quote=“dan2006”]I’d also like to know the answer to that question Quintin.
Do Asian/Chinese girls usually turn the guy down the first time and you have to ask again?
I have this situation now, i asked this girl out, she said “ahh you are really nice but (insert excuse here)”
and I have heard that most times they will not say yes the first time when you ask them out so as to not appear easy.
If this is the case, I wonder how long it is a good idea to wait before asking again or am i just crazy :loco:[/quote]
yes Taiwanese girls are kinda expected to turn you down a few times As a smoke screen to test you.
But you can usually tell if they really mean NO, or just “no”. Dont wait too long to ask again and again and again and again. IF she keeps coming out with you? its already a yes.
she went back to the mainland for 3 months to visit family but will be back for university starting sept… i will figure out what to say before then
Her girlfriend is still here, i think it would be bad form to ask her what her friend thinks of me…
and to get back to the original question, yes she replied to a le ad that i had posted, so she took the lead here. it worked well for both of us as her english improved grealy and my chinese improved a little
Yes, guys like to be chased, but they don’t usually run.
If a guy likes a girl and the girl approaches him, they’ll probably start dating. If he rejects the girl, it probably means he’s not interested and never will be.
The exception to this is when the guy is already in a relationship and that’s the only reason he is saying no. Then, I think most guys would feel flattered by being pursued, whether or not they eventually allow themselves to be caught.
Well… first time I came to Taiwan I found out there where actually 2 gals I thought and treated as friends chasing me… but by that time I was in no position of being chased anymore… in the end, I ended up having huge fights with my wife and having to say bye bye to them…
But then again… probably my mistake, because I’m the nice guy type, cooks well, doesn’t look half bad and talks almost equally to my wife and other people (take the lovey dovey pillow talk, and it is basically the same)… they should have thought I was going on them… and damn… do they thing that physical contact means anything over here or what???
As a smoke screen to test you.