Do Taiwanese Women Only Think About Sex?

Life Dating & Relationships
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It’s sort of a backward question at first. But I have honestly had a similar conversation…I don’t know how many times.

TW=Taiwanese Woman
Me=Me

TW= A friend of mine got invited to go to a guy’s house.
Me = Does she know him?
TW= Yeah. He’s her friend. What should she do?
Me = Then…go I guess.
TW= She thinks he only wants sex.
Me = Then maybe she shouldn’t go. I don’t know. I don’t know the guy.
TW= How can you find out if he only wants sex?
Me = I don’t know.
TW= He’s a foreigner like you…so figure you would know.

The conversation generally gets weirder from there.

Anyone else run into this from time to time? I know it might not fit under “dating in Taiwan,” but I don’t know where else to put it.

Matt

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It might be less embarrassing if you put it in your hand and gave it a little shake in private from time to time. :laughing:

HG

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You: You know, saying things like “all foreigners are… all foreigners look… all foreigners think…” makes you look even more ridiculous than your godawful pointy shoes. What? You don’t have any pointy shoes? Nonsense. All Taiwanese girls love super-pointy shoes.

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LOL

Trust me…when I first got here, I attacked every foreigner stereotype that someone said to me. But let’s face it, if we’re going to look at stereotypes, the foreigner “I want sex” drive in the male species tends to be a lot different than the local one. And I’ll admit that as a foreigner. But I’ll also say it’s a good characteristic to have to a point. I tend to think of Taiwan’s stereotyped mentality towards sex (again…I point out it’s a stereotype and not necessarily an actuality) is a lot less healthy and repressed.

And I am trying to be careful how I say that because I don’t want this to be a “your stereotype is worse than ours.” I’m just trying to use that to sort of point out two completely different world views that seem to be opposing each other. One is from a group of females who seem to think any thought about sex whatsoever must be evil and horrid. It’s like living in a fundamentalist convent. The other is filled with horrible experiences from women who met Joe Canada who thinks he can score with any Asian local because his skin is lighter and he has large eyes.

So…I don’t know. I guess I see where the uncertainty comes from. But I guess I’m more confused about how you address a situation where someone is afraid to go to their friend’s house for fear of being raped. That mentality doesn’t really make sense to me at all.

Matt

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Better take that back, sandman! I won’t let you diss pointy shoes! :fume:

OP, yes, I’ve been told many, many times by my Taiwanese girlfriends that “foreigners care too much about sex” when there are much more important things in life, such as shopping, dining, TV and sleep. I usually reply: “Yes, those crazy waiguoren”.

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Escort your friend to the kitchen. Take out a large sharp knife. Ask you friend to jab the knife into her own body as many times as she can before she faints.

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[quote=“TomHill”]

Escort your friend to the kitchen. Take out a large sharp knife. Ask you friend to jab the knife into her own body as many times as she can before she faints.[/quote]

Great. Then we’d have a new stereotype to battle.

Oh oh oh…bad pun time.

If it’s a minor asking a question, and since we helped them kill themselves and we’re in Taiwan…

…come on…
…you know the punchline…

Is that considered euthanasia?

Sorry. Only chance I had to jump on that one. I promise I won’t do it again.

Matt

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Better take that back, sandman! I won’t let you diss pointy shoes! :fume:

OP, yes, I’ve been told many, many times by my Taiwanese girlfriends that “foreigners care too much about sex” when there are much more important things in life, such as shopping, dining, TV and sleep. I usually reply: “Yes, those crazy waiguoren”.[/quote]
Oh yeah! Oh yeah! I KNEW it was only a matter of time! How is that lent thing going did you say? Stepping close, tash, stepping close.
Anyway, there are pointy shoes and there are pointy shoes. And 4foot-eleven midgets in 11-inch-long pointy shoes DO NOT look the same as tall graceful ladies of elegance in the same shoes.

But surely if the OP is serious about the bloke in question being the girl’s “friend” yet she’s afraid of being raped by him, then perhaps you should question her choice of friends.

But sure, I don’t think it’s really a stereotype that a 20-something young, dumb, full of cum chap on his first foray overseas is going to be probably a lot less inhibited than a local who has a whole different set of mores and behavioural expectations to contend with.

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[quote=“ILoveItHereButIDoMissSnow”]It’s sort of a backward question at first. But I have honestly had a similar conversation…I don’t know how many times.

TW=Taiwanese Woman
Me=Me

TW= A friend of mine got invited to go to a guy’s house.
Me = Does she know him?
TW= Yeah. He’s her friend. What should she do?
Me = Then…go I guess.
TW= She thinks he only wants sex.
Me = Then maybe she shouldn’t go. I don’t know. I don’t know the guy.
TW= How can you find out if he only wants sex?
Me = I don’t know.
TW= He’s a foreigner like you…so figure you would know.

The conversation generally gets weirder from there.

Anyone else run into this from time to time? I know it might not fit under “dating in Taiwan,” but I don’t know where else to put it.

Matt[/quote]

I deduce Senor Matt that you haven’t been in Taiwan for too long. My ability to tolerate this kind of conversation lasted as long as my ability to remain friends with any Taiwanese woman who I would never shag… about 2 minutes tops.
Here is how Tom would deal with it…

TW= A friend of mine got invited to go to a guy’s house.
Me = So, I got invited to another bloody wedding.
TW= He’s her friend. What should she do?
Me = What are you talking about? What should she what? What?
TW= She thinks he only wants sex.
Me = Won’t he need to eat and drink and stuff. Not many survive solely on sex.
TW= How can you find out if he only wants sex?
Me = Ask him directly. See if he rejects food and water.
TW= He’s a foreigner like you.
Me= My mum says you are a foreigner.

Try that next time. That woman is either trying to chat you up, or she is as vacant as an apartment block in Wu-chi.

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That was my thought as well. Don’t people usually choose friends who aren’t going to sexually assault them?

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[quote]TW= He’s a foreigner like you.
Me= My mum says you are a foreigner. [/quote]
Damn! :laughing: :laughing: It niiiice!

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I have experienced this type of conversation quite a few times, and it seems the girl already knows the answer inside. But if you tell them, they act like it is impossible. They find out later a) they’ve already had the experience one or more times before b) their friend has had the experience and they are curious about it also and don’t want to be left out or c) they go, and have the experience and then hear about it later.

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That was my thought as well. Don’t people usually choose friends who aren’t going to sexually assault them?[/quote]

I don’t know much, but most sexual assults and rapes are within the circle of spouse, girl-/boyfriend. The chance of being raped or sexually assulted should be minimal if you …

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[quote=“TomHill”]TW= He’s a foreigner like you.
Me= My mum says you are a foreigner.
[/quote]

:roflmao: :roflmao: I am definitely going to use this one sometime…

That was my thought as well. Don’t people usually choose friends who aren’t going to sexually assault them?[/quote]

You’d be surprised how often guys choose female friends in the HOPE that they WILL sexually assault us… :smiley:

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It’s a manipulation thing. The girls wants to appear as a virginal white flower while she bangs half the football team during halftime, so she acts as though she thinks half the football team will marry her and love her and have romantic ideals about her orgy. This way when he doesn’t call her in the morning she is a victim, not a slut.

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Yeah, It’s like this one time at Band Camp…
This TW woman clinging big time, physically refusing to let go, yet all the time exclaiming, “No, I can’t! I’m Taiwan good girl!”

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[quote=“ILoveItHereButIDoMissSnow”]It’s sort of a backward question at first. But I have honestly had a similar conversation…I don’t know how many times.

TW=Taiwanese Woman
Me=Me

TW= A friend of mine got invited to go to a guy’s house.
Me = Does she know him?
TW= Yeah. He’s her friend. What should she do?
Me = Then…go I guess.
TW= She thinks he only wants sex.
Then mMe = aybe she shouldn’t go. I don’t know. I don’t know the guy.
TW= How can you find out if he only wants sex?
Me = I don’t know.
TW= He’s a foreigner like you…so figure you would know.

The conversation generally gets weirder from there.

Anyone else run into this from time to time? I know it might not fit under “dating in Taiwan,” but I don’t know where else to put it.

Matt[/quote]

translation:

TW: a friend of mine got invited to a guy’s house ( she and i both know what HE wants :slight_smile: )

ME: Does she know him? (thinks something is up and puts on white knights shining armor to try to save the damsel from what he knows will happen thru his lady friend)

TW: ya he’s her friend, what should she do? ( She and I both know what HE wants, and I was hoping you would too)

ME : Then…go i guess (what the heck shes not MY gf)

TW: She thinks he only wants sex (that is SOO obvious to her and I and I cant figure out why you dont KNOW THAT ??? :slight_smile:

ME: tHEN MAYBE she shouldnt go, i dont know , i dont know the guy ( HONESTLY? I rather talk bout you and ME , who cares bout that guy?? and that girl??? nothing to do with ME)

TW: how can you find out if he only wants sex? (OH PLEASE !!! HOW COME YOU ARE NOT GETTING THE IDEA??? I WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU , HOW COME YOU DONT INVITE ME TO YOUR HOUSE??? AND DONT GET THE IDEA??? SHES GONNA GET LAID?? HOW BOUT ME??? )

ME : i dont know (and honestly?? what does your friend do with me? and im not responsible for what all foreigners think??? I dont follow this conversation at all !! )

TW: Hes a foreigner like you, so figure you would know (AND HONESTLY HOW COME YOU ARE NOT INVITING ME OVER??? AND IM GIVING YOU ALL THE CLUES IN THE WORLD HERE !1!! )

*conversation gets wierder and wierder because the two parties are NOT connecting and understanding what each other is trying to say. *******

I wouldve said "oh hhhh I think shes going to get laid "

her " no way" (but OF COURSE I KNOW THAT)

ME: so when are YOU coming over HERE??

EDIT (IN ADDITION)

Taiwanese girls want to be seduced and charmed (THEY are actually the ones doing the seducing and charming by the way) and are not usually going to be very upfront with you if they want to “mis behave” because they dont want to appear to be “bad girls”. they want the ONUS of reponsibility to be on YOU. iN CASe things unravel in the future, it will all be YOUR FAULT. And they can “escape without guilt” .

they are sooooooo not going to call you up and say “YO HOMEY?? IM FEELING LIKE. SOOOOO HORNY, SO ??? ARE YOU UP FOR IT?? YOU READY TO HANG??” (until you become intimate, then they WILL )

no , THEY dont talk bout sex with a male friend unless they are trying to give you some IDEA . Because you are not making any moves on her in that direction. Notice a taiwanese girl going out with you (and she likes you already if shes going out with you) will dress all sexy? If shes found out you love pretty legs, she will show up in hot pants that are super short. YOu think she just slapped something together??? HAHA , not so. YOu are a cd and shes playin ya brother !!

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Dear Tommy,

I enjoyed reading your dissertation about my recent conversation between myself and my girlfriend. Glad to know she is “trying” to seduce me.

Yeah…I laughed as I read it.

Thanks for embarrasing the flag in your profile.
Matt

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Dear Tommy,

U r right on.

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Dear Tommy,

I enjoyed reading your dissertation about my recent conversation between myself and my girlfriend. Glad to know she is “trying” to seduce me.

Yeah…I laughed as I read it.

Thanks for embarrasing the flag in your profile.
Matt[/quote]

:slight_smile: glad to get a chuckle out of you. Not embarashing the flag bro, just cueing you in on the local scene. Iv just been led by the nose so long in Taiwan, thought I would enlighten the younger set.

and taiwanese girls really aint that different really from others. They are manipulative just like anywhere else and they call the shots and we know that :wink:

WE guys just dont know how to read women all that well. And we get taken for rides often !!! And often not to where we wanna go.

but eventually we all learn the easy way or the hard way, but we LEARN.