[quote=“jdsmith”]That would be logical…aren’t we talking about women??
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One more comment like that and you can find your own clean socks 
[quote=“daasgrrl”][quote=“jdsmith”]That would be logical…aren’t we talking about women??
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One more comment like that and you can find your own clean socks [/quote]
Thats what we pay the maid for daas.
[quote=“TomHill”][quote=“daasgrrl”][quote=“jdsmith”]That would be logical…aren’t we talking about women??
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One more comment like that and you can find your own clean socks [/quote]
Thats what we pay the maid for daas.[/quote]
Yeah, but isn’t she female?
Yes she is. Oh I see. Shamone Daasgirl. Shamone!
[quote=“daasgrrl”][quote=“jdsmith”]That would be logical…aren’t we talking about women??
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One more comment like that and you can find your own clean socks [/quote]
socks can be cleaned???
You insensitive jerk. Here she is going to work all unhappy and her SO won’t even extend the slightest chivalrous gesture towrd her so now she’s going to work, thinking about how her boyfriend wouldn’t even take the time to spend that last moment with her, being her knight in shining armor and giving her a goodbye kiss. She already is unhappy at work and now you’ve made her day even worse before she even gets there…wet hair and clothes and being sworn at by her boyfriend who let her get wet rather than taking a few minutes and spending it walking her to her scooter.
Way to go, Jimmy Romantic.
You are so sleeping on the sofa tonight.
[quote=“ImaniOU”]You insensitive jerk. Here she is going to work all unhappy and her SO won’t even extend the slightest chivalrous gesture towrd her so now she’s going to work, thinking about how her boyfriend wouldn’t even take the time to spend that last moment with her, being her knight in shining armor and giving her a goodbye kiss. She already is unhappy at work and now you’ve made her day even worse before she even gets there…wet hair and clothes and being sworn at by her boyfriend who let her get wet rather than taking a few minutes and spending it walking her to her scooter.
Way to go, Jimmy Romantic.
You are so sleeping on the sofa tonight.[/quote]
Did you even read the thread? My man TH has bowed before the great Mistress and recanted his earlier discretions. All this was done before lunch. Try to keep up with the times, won’t you Ms Thang.
TH, don’t pay her (The QP) no mind nohow. She seems to have gotten up on the wrong side of the erm, sofa, for weeks now. You keep raining your own brand of love down on that sweet WIFE (paying attention yet ImaniOU) of yours.
Off topic, but am I now toadying to the likes of TomHill?
The (hatch???) Gumper
[quote=“The Gumper”][quote=“ImaniOU”]You insensitive jerk. Here she is going to work all unhappy and her SO won’t even extend the slightest chivalrous gesture towrd her so now she’s going to work, thinking about how her boyfriend wouldn’t even take the time to spend that last moment with her, being her knight in shining armor and giving her a goodbye kiss. She already is unhappy at work and now you’ve made her day even worse before she even gets there…wet hair and clothes and being sworn at by her boyfriend who let her get wet rather than taking a few minutes and spending it walking her to her scooter.
Way to go, Jimmy Romantic.
You are so sleeping on the sofa tonight.[/quote]
Did you even read the thread? My man TH has bowed before the great Mistress and recanted his earlier discretions. All this was done before lunch. Try to keep up with the times, won’t you Ms Thang.
TH, don’t pay her (The QP) no mind nohow. She seems to have gotten up on the wrong side of the erm, sofa, for weeks now. You keep raining your own brand of love down on that sweet WIFE (paying attention yet ImaniOU) of yours.
Off topic, but am I now toadying to the likes of TomHill?
The (hatch???) Gumper[/quote]
No one toadies like the gumper toadies.
Im sleeping in my bed, imaniou.
I escort my wife to the bus stop at 5:30 every workday morning, come rain or shine, and wait with her until she’s safely on the bus, no matter how busy I am (I nearly always start working in my study before she leaves, and break off to go out with her). She’s not happy about her job, and I know that my husbandly gallantry bolsters her spirits a lot, so I’m only too glad to oblige.
5:30 a.m.?
A.M.?
Bloody hell! I didn’t know they even HAD buses running in the middle of the night!
Yeah, thats all well and good but I’m a totally selfish wankah! The post script to this story is that she bunked off work that afternoon and spent 7 thousand dollars on clothes to make herself feel better. When will I ever friggin learn? 
Maybe you’re mis-applying the encryption algorithm here. “Walk me outside to my scooter” could very well mean; “Drive me to work in our car so I don’t have to get wet, you lazy bastard that doesn’t have to get up for another 12 hours!”.
Which would, in the end, have been a better outcome than her spending NT$7000 on clothes…
My wife almost never gives me a minute of grief over anything. No kidding.
Now that is the point I would draw a line… in her credit card and then slice down along it with a very sharp knife.
As to the initial umbrella thing… I think I would have done it but wouldn’t have been able to stop myself from a slight 
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Now that is the point I would draw a line… in her credit card and then slice down along it with a very sharp knife.
As to the initial umbrella thing… I think I would have done it but wouldn’t have been able to stop myself from a slight .[/quote]
I wouldn’t have done it, if for no other reason but the fact that there’s no way in heaven or hell you’re getting my ass out of bed that early in the morning. :raspberry:
Just thought of one reason I would infact get out of bed that early. If the Springboks were playing the All Blacks I’d be up and wide awake.
I so ashamed… 
Probably goes some way to explaining why I don’t have a significant other, let alone a wife.
People who are insecure in their relationships often try to deal with that insecurity by becoming domineering towards their mates. They interpret the process as one of ‘proving one’s love’ but in reality it’s about exerting control over the relationship to protect it and ensure its perpetuation. Think of it as emotional alcoholism.
Like many things we humans do though it has the exact opposite intended effect. Dominating one’s mate, rather than binding them closer, drives them away because it’s emotional abuse compounded by confusion and frustration at such seemingly irrational behaviour that is never adequately explained or justified and only seems to grow worse the more you try to solve it.
Since domination as a remedy for insecurity is essentially irrational behaviour, you’ll never be able to find the rational common ground with your girlfriend you’re looking for. She doesn’t realize that what she’s doing is inviting you into a process in which you need to be abused and she needs to abuse. To her it’s about ‘love.’ The only future for such a relationship is its destruction or the destruction of the emotional well-being of the people involved because her appetite for domination won’t decrease the more you give in to it. Like any other misplaced human need, it will only end up growing worse because the more she dominates you to protect the relationship the more you’ll pull away to protect yourself – and the more she’ll try to exert control over you.
My advice? Accept that it’s not going to get better because it’s a form of emotional addiction. It’s only going to get worse the more important your relationship becomes to your girlfriend. Giving in to the domination will only make it worse quicker and more pervasively. She’ll lose all respect for you and you’ll lose respect for yourself – if the relationship lasts that long. Accept that you’ll have a lifelong, emotionally exhausting struggle with her over her need to dominate – or walk away now.
Whoaaa!! Some heavy words. In the right context I think your advice is well thought out, but I don’t think Tomhill’s situation (correct me if I’m wrong Tom) is quite in that category. In fact if one goes over this entire thread I think you’ll realise that there are several factors that he hasn’t quite clued us in on. That is to say that she’s not really always like this, but was having a bit of a depressing day what with her job and all.
Besides, it’s his wife… Not some girlfriend he’s shacked up with, and unless there is some serious emotional ABUSE or physical abuse going on I would never recommend just tossing a marriage. A marriage is different from any other relationship in that you’ve promised to love and care (including emotional care) for the other person for the rest of your life come hell or high water.
I think spook just got caught up in his description of a type (dare I say archetype?) and forgot he was talking about real people… people who change and grow. People who sometimes just have bad days.