[quote=“Muzha Man”]Okay, your post is ridiculous. You are a grown woman, what are you doing subjecting your fetus/baby to second-hand smoke? Go home when people smoke. Stay at home if you know they are going to smoke.
Sorry, but you can’t go around bashing others without taking a little responsibility for your own stupidity. And what the hell is wrong with the father? You have a baby. That trumps both your idiotic needs to save face with the business partners.
Sitting with a 3 month old baby in a smokey room full of drunks. Great. I suppose when they ask you to let them toss the baby in the air you hand him over? [/quote]
If you don’t like people smoking around you then ask them to stop. They don’t have a right to insist that you choose between sharing their disgusting habit and giving up a social life. Life is not a choice between staying at home and breathing second-hand smoke. Non-smokers are perfectly entitled to go out and have a good time too.
On the other hand, MM is perfectly correct. Asking people to be considerate is one thing, asking people to give up their pleasures when you’re a minority of one is a bit extreme. And if you know that people are going to be smoking then you really shouldn’t be bringing your baby.
Imposing your baby on people who may not want to share the delights of parenthood is no different from imposing your second-hand smoke on people. A pub full of babies can be as distressing as a pub full of smoke to some people. Walking into a smoke-filled room where a bunch of guys are enjoying themselves without their wives, brandishing your baby, and expecting everyone to do things your way is neither fair nor realistic.
Rather than expecting you to stay at home I would suggest that you restrict your socializing to places where you are ‘normal’. The world needs to accomodate smokers, babies, non-smokers, and others rather than telling people to go home if they don’t fit some misguided stereotype. Find others like yourself, and share your interests/values. There’s no need to be relegated to the kitchen or to expose your baby to all that unhealthy stuff.