My g/f of 2 years, Taiwanese, just dumped my white ass. 
She says she loves me, but has no capacity to deal with the problems that occur in our relationship.
Shoot, I jacked it all in to live here with her. I feel⌠I donât know how I feel.
Take your best shot. I need another kick in the nuts.
oh what kind of problems did you have?
It seems I bottle up my emotions. I tend to blame her for the things that go wrong in our life.
She wont let me drink beer, and wants to sleep in spearate beds cos I annoy her by sleeping next to her, and she wants to make love once a month.
I am selfish because i want to drink beer and make love.
These things, it would appear, are my fault.
The limits she puts on my behaviour have been reached.
[quote=âThe200Clubâ]My g/f of 2 years, Taiwanese, just dumped my white ass.
She says she loves me, but has no capacity to deal with the problems that occur in our relationship.
Shoot, I jacked it all in to live here with her. I feel⌠I donât know how I feel.
Take your best shot. I need another kick in the nuts.[/quote]
We donât wanna kick you in the nuts mate! Believe me. Sorry to hear. If you wanna talk about it, go right ahead. She said âshe has no capacity to deal with the problems in our relationship.â You wanna tell us more? Are the problems insurmountable or could the two of you do something about them? No need to answer if you donât wanna. Sometimes helps to spill your guts out in the open⌠I think? 
learn from it dude and move on. She may have done you a favorâŚ
[quote=âThe200Clubâ]she wants to make love once a month.
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Trade her in for the âonce every 24 hoursâ variety
200club -
No need for trashing you.
What you are describing has happened, some times more than once, to probably every guy on here and in the world.
My advice, if you are asking:
Gather what you can from what has happened, give her a kiss on the cheek and tell her its time for you to move on.
Crash elsewhere and re-establish your life.
Sometimes things end and its time to open new doors and all that happy talk.
Donât beat yourself about the head.
If its a new woman you want, then find one more compatible, not just available. But first get some stability for your own peace of mind.
âŚ/sermon over 
Best of fortune to yaâ
You selfish BASTARD!
Life can only get better from here. Youâre free now. Take that wise old sage Chewycorns advice.
What, every month? Wow, thatâs cool. I could really increase my lifetime average with a girl like that. And I donât drink beer either, unless I want to pee every ten minutes for the next few hours. And she wouldnât want to cramp my style by sleeping in my bed? So I can continue being a smelly disgusting git?
This sounds like the perfect woman for me, and I mention it only so you know that there are people worse off than you. I mean you can do better. I have to make do with Big Fluffy Matthewâs occasional affections.
How dare you actually want to enjoy life? Of all the inconsiderate things.
It could be worse - you could have discovered this after you married her.
Of course, how come you didnât find these things out until you moved to Taiwan for her???
Dude, youâre free. Four little words of advice: Carnegies on Wednesday Night.
Life is a carnival; get on the ride.
The200Club, go out, drink beer and womanise to your heartâs content. Do this and she will be back with you, and in your bed, by SundayâŚ
Ha! Roach, too right!
It sounds like you are not doing the things she needs you to do. Some of her âneedsâ may be reasonableâlike not wanting you to drink too much. On the other hand, they may just reflect her deeper need to control your life. Not sleeping with you and refusing to let you have what you consider to be a normal social life (if that is what you mean by drinking beer) are warning signs and should be a signal for you that there are serious problems. It sounds like she has done you a favor by deciding it is time to move on.
Pick yourself off the ground and get on with your life. If you came here to be with her and you are not ready to leave Taiwan yet, you may have the opportunity to discover a lot more about Taiwan. If you can leave now and feel there is nothing here for you now that she is gone, you should pack your bags.
Many foreigner-Taiwanese relationships have some of the problms that I think you are describing, but there is no reason for you to put up with this kind of behavior even i you really do love her. Not all Taiwanese women are like this, and maybe you should consider getting together with someone from the foreign communityâyou might have more in common.
Keep an open mind, and you will be much more likely to meet someone with an open mind too. Hang in there.
[quote=âThe200Clubâ]It seems I bottle up my emotions. I tend to blame her for the things that go wrong in our life.
She wont let me drink beer, and wants to sleep in spearate beds cos I annoy her by sleeping next to her, and she wants to make love once a month. [/quote]
Women er in general faster to perceive when the relationship is in trouble than men are.
Yup, you have been in trouble for some time - if you donât make love, then you are screwed. (Unless itâs that time of month, late term pregnancy or the like).
The200Club, ll be a little more serious this time. Feiren has given you some good advice but there was also something in what I said earlier.
It this how you really feel or how she has made you feel?
Just how much beer do you want to drink? I donât think you should be made to feel guilty because you want/need to socialise with friends one in a while. Perhaps there is a reason she is unhappy with you drinking, maybe her father/mother/brother/sister has/had a drinking problem that caused her some unhappiness. Then again, perhaps itâs just a control thing.
It would be easy to think that she has some control issuesâŚ
Without all the facts itâs difficult to know what to say. But if you really love her as much as you appear to then âŚ
Donât be too hasty to give up on her, after all you were together for two years, not all of which could have been so bad. Maybe after two years your relationship became a little staid, perhaps it just needed something to pep it up a bit. But do go out, socialize, drink beer and make new friends, etc. But I wouldnât go bed hopping just yet if I were you. Just get yourself a support mechanism going and be prepared to eitherâŚ
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This is good advice but maybe you should make sure before giving up completely - emotions are running high so take your timeâŚ
As Feiren said - Hang in thereâŚ
'nuff said.
I would just move on.
Taiwanese women and beer - you will meet a few females believing that one drop of alcohol is bad - the smarter ones will not start making a stink initially, but will step by step put pressure on you to make you stop.
Sex - certainly depends, but a low frequency is a sure fire sign of trouble.
More clarification.
Drinking beer: About 4 cans a week.
Making Love: Id like 3 or 4 times per week. Sheâd like it about once every two weeks.
I ssuppose this must be my fault as she is leaving me. Not the other way around.
I donât want to move on, or get over her. I quite like arguing and learning to find the middle ground. From what she says, every fight is like a knife in her chest. She may even count how many arguments we have had. 
I dont think she is a weirdo.
I say âI miss my familyâ she says, âGo home then.â Thats not right is it?
I say âI cant speak chinese very wellâ. She says âYou should spend your free time learningâ
My criticism of her usually is that she doesnt try to understand my needs. Her reply is that she is trying her best, and that I dont recognize her efforts.
Oh blah blah blah. I love her. I gave her my life. Why isnt that enough for her to try and deal with what she perceives as my weaknesses?
Loretta, it sounds like you need a good bunk up.
the knife is a good analogy for you too.
How far do you want it pushed in before itâs yanked out for good?
Dating a foriegner for two yearsâŚhmmm. Did you meet her family? If not, you may have just been a longer term experiment for her. What goes said and unsaid in a relationship are not always equal and/or totally understood despite feelings to the contrary.
Maybe it took her a long time to figure out that the two of you were âbu heâ (not suitable). A two-year relationship in Taiwan is NOT really that long. Some girls date their high school BF for 6 years before dumping them.
But on the positive note, better to find this out now, than in two more years after you got her pregnant and married her.
Donât dwell. Go get a beer. Youâve earned it.