I am (of all professions) a European lawyer and live in Singapore. I have a 3 year old daughter in Taiwan and am divorced from the mother, who lives in Taiwan.
She is giving me a hard time regarding my visiting rights (who were set by the court, otherwise, she would not even let me see the child). In the beginning the mother would not let me come close to the little one. Now I am just following my daughter and the mother, I cannot talk to them as the mother shields the child from me and tells the child not to look at me. I fly to Taiwan every month, but my daughter still does not know, who I am. It is very sad.
Is there any Child protection agency in Taiwan, who can help me with visiting a little Child? People who could be at the visits as e.g. trained third parties? Or is there a fathers rights foundation?
Sorry but no good advice right yet. But followig with interest as this situation is extremely common in taiwanese culture, and it is horrendous.
Hope someone has some ideas.
One thing to do is go to the government social services office will all your documents. They can setup stuff auch as visits. The issues i have seen here that is relative to your situation:
Governemnt offices and staff vary a LOT. Some are very nice and helpful, others are filled with entitled old cunts who just hurt your cause. Same goes for courts. This regional issue will depend on where your daughters household registration is. Because you are a foreigner (?) And not residing here you cant open a case where you reside as it is out of country. If you are taiwanese i suggest moving your household registration to an area with better quality human beings sitting at the desks. If you are a foreigner with an ARC you can change your visa adress to said area and open up a file in that area. I am no expert and not qualified but have dealt with these cases before here. Can message me for my opinion on better offices if interested.
If she is 3, dont wait. Once ahe hits 5ish the gov will start interviewing her. Given the situation she will be brainwashed into her moms perspective. You will lose most likely. So act now…
These selfish moms who totally dominate their children, especially daughters, are seriously ing them up during development. It isnt an issue of YOU seeing your daughter, it is an issue of not letting her get all ed in the head. You and your ex HAVE to suck it up and stop being selfish assholes. I know, you both think it is the other that is the asshole. Think from a 3 year olds perspective and move from that direction out, not from an adults perspective and hate inwards.
Your daughter will almost surely grow up ed up otherwise…sorry… Its the hardeat thing to accept and amend, but its the also the most important, otherwise the parents are just being selfish twats out for their own means, in which case no help is deserved.
Play the long game, but start planning everythung yesterday. The deck is stacked against you, and that assumes you are a good person and dad…
Many thanks for your thoughts. You are describing the situation spot on - it is almost scary.
I have no illusions about my chances, but I will pursue another court hearing to enforce my visiting rights. Even if I fail, it will be important O can show my daughter (if she is ever interested) that I was fighting for seeing her and that I did not abandon her.
But I do worry very much about her psyche and well being.
sorry for my late reply. For me the situation is a bit more complicated, as I live in SGP and need to travel to Taipei for my visits.
I sued now the third time for enforcement of my visiting rights at the family court. Technically this is an inquiry about visiting rights, which the family court starts and is triggered by me. It costs me around USD 2’000. The next court date is early November and I hope it goes all well.
A good sign is that the court apparently mandated a social worker to investigate the case. She contacted my lawyer and mentioned that ongoing the visits could be accompanied by a social worker, who supervise the interactions and can make sure I can one day see my daughter alone.
I was immensely positively surprised that Tawian has such an elaborate system in place.
Happy to pass you the details of my lawyer, if you like.
Based on own experiences, I strongly advise you NOT to put that much hope into the social workers system here in TW.
Those people are actually working for a private company hired by the court. They are pretty much sided towards taiwanese locals …
There are also “family-investigators”, which are directly employed at the family-courts.
But for me it seems they only take actions in case you appeal the first verdict.
There is a big difference in my case between the reports of social worker and family-investigators. Maybe that was due to my own case, maybe that’s not the norm, so I just throw in my personal experience in here.
Hi Robbie, the USD 2k are the fees I paid to my lawyer inclusive of the court fees. I think the court fees are rather small. Not sure what fees the social department will charge for enforcement or accompanying the visits. We will see.
Ok i see, thats not so bad, im curious about this social worker thing.
While i was in my current (bs) agreement my ex lured me into a police station, at the time i didnt have wifi and the officers spoke not a English
He told me that a social worker was appoint or at least asked for(Possibly just poor translation)
It never materialized.
I used some Legal aid lawyer on my cases and they were both stupendously atrocious. Im thinking of paying a lawyer to see what they can do differently.
Im not good with dm”s on here but if you know how maybe send me your lawyers information
Thanks
ing them up during development. It isnt an issue of YOU seeing your daughter, it is an issue of not letting her get all 