Have you ever given and given some more? Only to receive just morsels in return? Have you ever planned an elaborate vacation for the two of you and gotten nothing but complaints and negative comments the whole time? Have you ever had a great day at work and skipped along the sidewalk all the home, smiling and glad to see the other person, only to be greeted by nagging and bitching and put-downs? They couldn’t even stop thinking of themselves for a minute to ask you how your day was.
At what point did you say to yourself and your mate “Enough is enough. You are good. I am good. We’re just not good for each other.”
Yep, done it numerous times.
If lucky, sooner rather than later… makes it easier to shift gears to “just (close) friends”.
Many of my best friends are former gfs. If you do it right, you’ll both be happier and still remain friends.
Yes, I used to get hit the other way. I’d get up early for another great day and get hammered down before it even got going.
I had breakfast at restaurants for 10 years to avoid being home when the grumpy one put in an appearance. I’d often go 5 star and have breakfast at the Hyatt, or slum it at Mc Donalds. Whatever worked as long as I was out of there.
I’m lucky now, I can have breakfast at home everyday.
You should be careful with that skipping thing, especially wearing those orange sandals with the white spots. You could easily twist an ankle.
They’re really nice sandals by the way.
I’d say about the time you feel badly enough about it to post about it here. WHere does this cad live? Let me go and sort him out for you. :fume:
The image of a dude with 914’s build skipping is enough to bring a smile to my face. How could anyone not be delighted to see that much muscle flouncing so pleasingly? There nust be something seriously wring with her.
At what point do you say “What the hell is wrong with me that I’m choosing to waste myself on someone who doesn’t give back?”
We are what we are, and it’s no good bitching about someone else’s inadequacies. You just have to be clear in your own mind about what you want from a relationship and not compromise. State your requirements to yourself regularly. State them to any prospective partner before you get committed. State them again if they’re not being met. And if you don’t get what you want then do without until you find the right person - or else accept that you’re asking too much and shut up.
I’d say about the time you feel badly enough about it to post about it here. WHere does this cad live? Let me go and sort him out for you. :fume:[/quote]
Yeah! I’ll go too! I can scratch with my fingernails real good!
Can’t believe anyone would give you that kind of dissin’, 914. You deserve the best! Don’t forget that!
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At what point did you say to yourself and your mate “Enough is enough. You are good. I am good. We’re just not good for each other.”[/quote]
Next time you’re supposed to meet up with the person in question, don’t. Don’t call. Shut off your phone so the person cannot call you. Go out. Go shopping for uh muscle shirts. Have a Starbucks and read the Financial Times. Mellow out and enjoy yourself.
Then when you do mellow out ask yourself, “Do I feel I missed anything? Do I feel bad about not showing up?” If the answers are “No” then the answer is clear.
I’m sorry, OK? I didn’t know you had been skipping! :s
