New poster here. Lurking on this forum for the last 3 years now without posting. Just a young man here trying to get wisdom from fellow older and wiser formosans. I don’t want to get banned by moderators or roasted by the regular formosans for this topic, I’m asking for a friend. Please don’t rip me a new one or just turn this topic into some sarcastic clever remarks full of nonsense.
How many of you gentlemen or your friends have used escorts in Taipei? I don’t believe it is sleazy, just a basic need men need sometimes. Have you or someone you know gotten attached to a girl after seeing her several times within a span of a few months? How did that work out? Online or in a 酒店 (jiu dian). It always doesn’t end up well it seems. A real relationship almost never works out when a client meets a girl during this work. Usually due to jealousy or control issues from the guy or the girl taking advantage of the guy seeing her. Even if a real relationship between escort and client happens it usually doesn’t last long. I’ve been in two before. Never want to do that again.
I know how stupid it sounds, but I have this friend who has no friends or family in Taipei and has no real interest dating local girls or making local friends, not close to any of his family. He just doesn’t want to become attached to Taiwan since he plans on leaving in the next year. He has been living in and out of Taipei for the last few years only for the medical care and frequents escorts weekly using family money and sleeps with them while living in the best hotels in Taipei for the past few consecutive years. He has visited escorts for his emotional and physical needs for the last few years in Taipei a few time a week without getting emotionally attached to any of the working girls here, but recently has caught feelings for one of the escorts he visits frequently.
Is there a way to block out getting emotionally attached to visiting escorts after seeing them a few times. Sometimes getting attached to escorts and working girls just happens without your control I guess. Other than just using a different girl every time. There are some girls he visits who he shows me pictures of who are I think are cute but average looking that he falls hard for, he tells me how ridiculously hot and attractive she is, even though I think it is only because him loving or lusting after the escort makes them more beautiful in his eyes.
My friend is depressed and a bit mentally unstable right now because of his emotional attachment with his escort. Even after not visiting her for a while. He will still use escorts regularly a few times a week in the future but it takes a huge toll on his mental health when he catches feelings with some of the girls. I don’t think many people can relate to my moronic friend but is there any advice you could give for him to get better. Maybe I can show him the replies from this topic to him to get him some help. Any advice and non flaming reply would be appreciated.
This wasn’t well written as I am a university dropout and reading what I wrote might make some of the posters confused - but the point is how can someone like my friend get over the fact that there can never be a relationship between the escort he fancies and is infatuated with? I can’t convince him. I don’t think my friend is completely stupid, just lonely in Taipei and looking for his physical and emotional needs in the wrong places.
I know antidepressants(SSRIs) might block out emotional attachment and the ability to fall in love and maybe fall out of love, but is there any other medication that you know of that might help my friend get over his worsening mental health and emotional pain? Other than drinking and using more escorts to numb his pain, is there any other way for him to get over this girl faster? Besides visiting mental health professionals in the hospital, which he already is doing, what can help?