Thanks guys,
I saw the dude today (before reading your replies) and he has apparently taken no further action. I think that like most of us he has the feeling that it is not a good idea, for a variety of reasons.
But, just for shits and giggles, let me be argumentative.
If sheâs past puberty then her body at least is more or less ready, and the âexperimentationâ is the natural result of natural processes. Yeah, go ahead and teach your kids that sex is bad, nasty, dangerous. Letâs pretend it doesnât happen, and see how they handle having to confront the reality in later life.
When is a girl really emotionally ready? There are plenty of older women, and not just in this country, who have severe problems. I donât accept that having achieved the age of 18, 28, or even 48, somehow magically makes a woman âemotionally readyâ. Especially not here. Some of you may be married to strong stable creatures, but thereâs no shortage of clinging, eager-to-please, single twenty-somethings out there that donât appear able to handle a âproperâ relationship.
True, manâs motives are rarely entirely âhonourableâ either. Again itâs hormones. Nature tells us to do these things and we sometimes argue against them because some or other authority has told us that theyâre âbadâ. But sometimes we do them anyway.
On the other hand, a teenage male is more likely to be lost in the red clouds of testosterone than someone who has slowed down a little with age. Maturity (sometimes) teaches respect for others, and appreciation of attributes other than the physical. Speaking personally, much as I love my rumpy-pumpy, Iâm not looking for one-night stands and I kind of resent the assumption that ALL men are ONLY interested in sex and nothing else.
To put it crudely, young bucks know little more than the biological imperative to mate and have a tendency to view girls as âtargetsâ. An older guy is more likely to take the time to make a young girl enjoy and feel good about what nature is telling her to do. Iâm pretty sure Iâve become a better and more considerate lover as I have grown up.
If a girl is naturally staring to experiment sexually then is it necessarily bad for her emotional well-being and self-esteem to do so with someone that she feels attracted to, and that would treat her well. Or should she lose her cherry to some football jock in an alley somewhere?
Or do you hold with that crap about no sex outside of lifelong marriage?
Of course, these thoughts come from a western perspective and I really have no idea how TW teens conduct their personal lives. I imagine that things are a lot different here from how they are in our home countries.
This from the USA recently:
Canât see it happening here! I mean, when would they find time?
Finally, I must say, and not just to provoke an argument, that girls are often badly treated by men and that early sexual experiences have a profound impact on later attitudes. Speaking as someone with`more than one close female friend who sees herself as âcheapâ or âeasyâ because that is what she has been taught, I have pretty strong feelings about this.
Disclaimer: I have never dated any of my students and donât anticipate being in a position where teen-sex is an option in the future. The above arguments are purely hypothetical in nature.
All those middle-aged businessmen tourists strolling around developing southeast Asia with local âcompanionsâ bought for with Euros and $ probably make the same kind of arguments to themselves in their minds.