[quote]When the day is long and the night, the night is yours alone,
When you’re sure you’ve had enough of this life, well hang on
Don’t let yourself go, 'cause everybody cries and everybody hurts sometimes
Sometimes everything is wrong. Now it’s time to sing along
When your day is night alone, (hold on, hold on)
If you feel like letting go, (hold on)
When you think you’ve had too much of this life, well hang on[/quote]
From REM “Everybody Hurts”
So, it seems like the end of this month everyone is ‘saying’ sorry for something.
Pinochet says he’s responsible for the terror he inflicted during his tenure. But no remorse
Even Japan is talking about saying ‘sorry’ for their war crimes.
Even though England and Pinochet are willing to acknowledge responsibility for creating history that affect millions of people for a time to come, they still fall short of saying “I’m sorry”. Period.
What is it about those two words that cause people and governments to cringe with resistance? Seems to me that saying “I’m sorry” and " I love you" are the two most arduous things to do in life. As if there would be a loss of something if one would to say it. A loss of face. A loss of power. A loss of control or social standing. Never an occurrence of redemption, for both parties.
Like I tell my son, after he hit some kid in the mouth when they were playing, “Saying sorry afterwards doesn’t mean anything if you knew beforehand that you shouldn’t do it.”
[quote=“Namahottie”]
Even though England and Pinochet are willing to acknowledge responsibility for creating history that affect millions of people for a time to come, they still fall short of saying “I’m sorry”. Period.[/quote]
It looks to me that he said sorry. OK, he didn’t use the exact word, but the same meaning is there.
Music by Elton John
Lyrics by Bernie Taupin
Available on the album Blue Moves
What have I got to do to make you love me
What have I got to do to make you care
What do I do when lightning strikes me
And I wake to find that you’re not there
What do I do to make you want me
What have I got to do to be heard
What do I say when it’s all over
And sorry seems to be the hardest word
It’s sad, so sad
It’s a sad, sad situation
And it’s getting more and more absurd
It’s sad, so sad
Why can’t we talk it over
Oh it seems to me
That sorry seems to be the hardest word
What do I do to make you love me
What have I got to do to be heard
What do I do when lightning strikes me
What have I got to do
What have I got to do
When sorry seems to be the hardest word
I find it hard not to interpret a “sorry” from “express our deep sorrow”.
I don’t need someone to use the exact words I’m looking for to express themselves.
Is there really a difference between “I’m sorry” and “I would like to express my deepest sorrow”?
[quote=“JMcNeill”]I find it hard not to interpret a “sorry” from “express our deep sorrow”.
I don’t need someone to use the exact words I’m looking for to express themselves.
Is there really a difference between “I’m sorry” and “I would like to express my deepest sorrow”?[/quote]
Yea!!! I’ll let you borrow my Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus some day.
[quote=“JMcNeill”]lol
Are you saying I might have a hard time getting used to married life? [/quote]
I don’t know if you would or wouldn’t as this derails my thread . I was hoping to have a serious discussion on these rather important events. As in Chile, those who were affected by the Pinochet government, suffered so much that Sting wrote a song about it
As for Slavery, blacks, I don’t know about English Blacks, but in America, have long discussed the need for the American government’s role in Slavery. And to see this happening in England shows that some sort of shift in the the dynamics of government seriously seeing the need for apologies and not funds allotted for those affected by the incident.
Truant- yes very true
No as for getting used to married life, best of luck cause I don’t know what it’s like. But I can guess that like any relationship, one of the keys to making it work it to have a willingness for good communication.
I on the other hand tell mine that saying sorry is worth diddly-squat if it is not backed up by “I’ll try hard to do better next time.” Actually I don’t care for the ‘I’m sorry’ part at all and focus just on the second part.