soddom, you say that using another person is not backstabbing if there is equity. A better way to say it is, it’s ok to use another person with their express consent. the term ‘back-stabbing’ implies that someone is coming at you from behind (much like your avitar- any coincidences there?) and you don’t expect and certainly don’t want to be used by them. Thus, the ‘stab’ hurts. Yes, I do have too much time on my hands at the moment. Moreover, I miss deconstructing literature from my old college days. Also, as an added bonus, I will reveal that the chinese phrase for backstabbing is, indeed, the same as that portrayed in soddom’s avitar: cuo4 pi4gu3, ie. I like to cuo4 bieren de pi4gu3. some people do that for fun, not just to get ahead. backstabees, I would be interested to hear what happened to you. backstabbers, please reveal your strategies and why you have no twinges of conscience. I f you like this post, I need some karma for motivation. Thank you. 