A few quick questions to gauge everyone’s opinion on how finances should be split in a relationship. Please answer based on whether you’re a guy or a girl and perhaps providing a little reasoning as to why.
Suppose a husband and wife both earn 50,000 NT a month for a combined family income of 100,000 NT a month. If the family expenses are 40,000 NT per month, how should this money be paid?
A. Husband pays for all of it since he can afford to
B. Wife pays for all of it since she can afford to
C. Both husband and wife split the bill with the exact ratio being unspecified
Now suppose the family expenses are 70,000 NT a month. How should this bill be paid?
A. Husband pays for 50,000 NT because that’s the most he has and then the wife pays for the remaining 20,000 NT
B. Wife pays for 50,000 NT because that’s the most she has and then the husband pays for the remaining 20,000 NT
C. Both husband and wife split the bill with the exact ratio being unspecified
D. Make lifestyle changes so that the family expenses can fit within the husband’s salary and have the husband pay for it all
For me, as a guy, I would prefer that my wife shares the financial responsibility with me. It doesn’t necessarily have to be 50/50. I am perfectly fine with paying more, especially if she makes less than me. And I definitely won’t expect to her to pay more if she makes more than I do. Or, if she doesn’t want to work at all, then I can shoulder all the financial responsibility while she contributes more on the domestic front. Either way, I feel that both partners have an obligation to share the households responsibilities.
The reason why I ask is because the vast majority of girls I’ve dated will split the financial responsibility with me. However, there seems to be a group of girls here who believe that the man must pay for everything even if the girl makes her own money. Basically the girl’s money is her money while the guy’s money is everyone’s money. These girls feel that they’re being supportive by willing to scrimp and pinch to fit the family’s budget within the husband’s salary or they’ll help out once the husband is tapped dry but they are not okay with sharing the financial responsibility otherwise.
Now the better bunch of these girls will put themselves in a housewife role and I will think that’s perfectly fair. Traditional gender roles aren’t my preference but I can respect the dynamic. However, it seems that a good portion of girls who insist that the man pay for everything will also expect the man to take care of them on the domestic front. Their mentality seems to be that the guy should work til he drops to take care of her in all areas. And it’s not only the girls who believe this. It seems that a number of guys here do as well. Or at least the ones that I’ve been running into lately.
I’ve been having heated arguments regarding this topic in the past month and I’m really mind-boggled by how certain girls (and guys) can think this way. So I’m just trying to get more opinions from people here on this matter. Maybe there’s some different school of thought that I’ve never encountered before, or maybe my world has always been restricted to people who believe in equal responsibility. Who knows. But I would definitely like to see what everyone thinks about this. Thanks in advance.