[quote=“touduke”]S-man, ha you remember that one.
I think your time-out advice is very good, indeed I need it badly sometimes and I spend too much time alone with my son. Not good for him, not good for me. It always helps to have other people involved.[/quote]
The poem is lovely (not for the poetry, but for the truth in it).
And the advice about giving yourself a time-out is a good one. I, too, have a short temper, and I sometimes tell my sons that Mommy needs a 5-minute timeout, and then I go take a few deep breaths and remind myself that they really are only children and will persist in acting like it. I will sometimes do something to try to lighten the mood as well, especially if we’re all crabby with each other. Sometimes we have a day “do-over”–I tell them that we’re all grumpy and obviously woke up on the wrong side of the bed, and we each need to go lay down for a few minutes,then get up and start the day over on the right foot. They think it’s the silliest thing, and it puts us all in better moods for dealing with each other.
I spend a lot of time on my own with my boys because my husband travels frequently, and I know it’s easy to get impatient. But for me, one of the most enlightening experiences was when I started seeing some of my own negative behaviors appear in my older son (namely, impatience). It was a wake-up call to endeavor to be more patient, and to model good, healthy ways of dealing with anger for him.
Parenting is never easy!