Man the op in the 2001 thread had it so bad, sounds like he was about to blow up.
Just shows how cultural miscommunication intersects with mental health… I remember getting pissed with a guy who appeared out of nowhere and asked me “where are you going?” years ago. I thought it was rude, later realised he was just translating “ni qu na li” which is just a harmless greeting.
Best to keep an open mind and not give to much of a shit about most stuff. If you look at everything through an inflexible set of spectacles with very exact expectations then your asking for a wind up. Also I think people sense it if you couldn’t care less and ease off on the “othering”.