I like the honest reply. maybe a little too honest, but I guess it’s good to know your strong points.
I think there can be both. Sometimes you are friends first, and then you are attracted over time. Sometimes you just want to jump him at first sight. Sometimes you are friends first and then you find him attractive and then you want to jump him. Sometimes you want to jump him at first sight but then he opens his mouth and you fall asleep.
friends first, if you want to waste a ton of time with a bunch of girls who you may never know are interested in you or not. especially if you don’t really want to be friends from the get go.
ALWAYS is a bit strong, so my reply is based on a subjective most of the time/most important relationships, which have started out as flirting/romantic/sexual, and then moved on to be deeper and more meaningful over time.
This is a potentially interesting poll without meaningful choices.
This poll seems to imply that every person uses a cookie cutter approach to romance. I’m sure you know about the birds and the bees, but it doesn’t always start the same way and end the same way.
Secondly, I’m not sure about “Romance THEN Friends”. I can see two meanings: it means you are romantically involved first but you break up and are just friends, or it implies that friendship emerges from all romances (not an ONS).
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For me, it’s a mixed bag. Sometimes it started as a friendship, sometimes as a romance. Sometimes it ended as a friendship, but sometimes we didn’t end up as friends, even when it began as a romance. I can say that for the most part it starts as a friendship for me that then becomes a romance, but when it doesn’t work out, it usually ends as a friendship. Isn’t that “Friends THEN Romance THEN Friends”?
I could talk about a relationship that was “Romance THEN Friends THEN Romance THEN Friends THEN Romance THEN Enemies”!
I’m flattered that you will go to such lengths, concoct such cunning ways of finding out, but why don’t you just ask me directly instead of trying to trick me into answering your ‘poll’?
Just ask me if if I think we will ever be more than friends and be done with.
Dunno 'bout that. I met a girl during my junior year of undergrad. That night, we went to the cemetary and had sex and then slept among the graves. We ended up living together my senior year and were quite attached to each other. Had I not come to Taiwan, I very well might have married her. She was a great girl. Long black hair, skinny, slinky, wicked smart, sang in a band that eventually put a few CDs out on Relix records (a Grateful Dead label), she was living on a diet of speed and Pepsi when we met. Anyway, for us it was lust first, romance and friendship later.
However, with my wife, it was friendship first… although I knew at first look that I wanted to jump all over her.
I think that relationships happen however they do.
I don’t fall in love from the first sight, but I also don’t make friends from the first sight. Both take time. You can’t be friends with someone BEFORE you get to know the person. And by the time I get to know him, I know pretty sure if I want us to be friends or lovers. Simple.
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I don’t fall in love from the first sight, but I also don’t make friends from the first sight. Both take time. You can’t be friends with someone BEFORE you get to know the person. And by the time I get to know him, I know pretty sure if I want us to be friends or lovers. Simple.[/quote]
Well said. :bravo:
I was more referring to what my friends do (and I don’t get) about dating someone they just met. I know a lot of people do it, But i guess I can’t have a purely physical attraction. Somethin wrong with my head.
