This post is only for general reference. This post describes someone I know who happens to be the strangest person I have met in my life. I have led a fairly sheltered life so my experiences are limited. This person has done little direct harm to me and is not the meanest or downright despicable person I have met (that person is another story) but overall exhibits the most number of characteristics which I abhor. In previous posts I have mentioned this person.
Here is a list of some of her actions. This list is not comprehensive. As background she is around 50 years old, lives at home, and is a lawyer (National Taiwan University graduate).
- Leveraging boyfriends:
Previously for 20 years she had 3 boyfriends…each with various levels of financial “strengths”….one was married and two were single. Annually she made a list of what she would ask her boyfriends to buy her that year. The rich one footed most of her bigger expenses like expense gifts. The middle boyfriend did some general financial support. The poorer boyfriend was mostly used for transportation needs like picking her up after work or trips around Taiwan.
- Purchases and warehouse:
She purchased so many shoes and other such stuff that the rich boyfriend let her use one of his apartments as her warehouse. When she went shopping she could buy 6 pairs of the same shoes. She often just requested stores to send her stuff directly to the warehouse.
- Juggling the boyfriends:
Since she had 3 boyfriends she had to keep very clear schedules to avoid any scheduling conflicts. Once I was at a play and she was sitting behind me with a boyfriend. She would babble on about how much she was enjoying the play. My wife told me she say the same play the night before with a different boyfriend.
Anytime she was with friends she would always be last to arrive and first to leave. She could get on boyfriend to bring her a gathering and another to pick her up later. The boyfriends knew that had competitors and one time two did bump into each other and argued. But she always pulled about her acting skills to calm them down.
- Attitude toward parents:
She lives at her parent’s house. They spoiled her by doing everything for her through the years. Whatever she want to eat her father would go buy. After she became an adult they continued to clean her room, wash her clothes, and cook all meals for her. However, with 3 boyfriends she never stayed home on weekends and never ate with the rest of the family when gathered for weekend lunch or dinner with parents. Her sisters sometimes called her friends to ask them to push her to attend the weekend gathering.
She would often scold her parents. After her mother died, her father complained to her about how filthy her room was getting. Her response…”I hope you get old and die.” (my translation)
- Visiting mother:
Her mother was in car wreck and in critical condition for six months. This woman, her daughter, refused to visit her mother in the hospital. Why? She is afraid of hospitals or anything to do with doctors. Her fortune teller warned her to stay away from such things.
One of her sisters asked her friends to push her to visit her mother as her health was deteriorating. She finally agreed and saw her mother right before her mother died.
- Fortune telling related:
She is very superstitious. She has a book which informs her what time to leave the house and what colors to wear every day. She pays a fortune teller NT$20,000 month to consult with her and perform bad spirit cleaning. She is familiar with many temples around Taiwan which she visits to keep herself lucky (the poor boyfriend provides transporation).
- Large expenses: Well, with her expenditures she spends a lot of money. She takes a taxi to work (when she does go to work) costing NT$500 (poor boyfriend picks her up at night). She only eats at fancy restaurants and shops at expensive stores.
She uses gifts to try to keep her friends. Some know that these gifts are paid for by her boyfriends. She constantly has to cancel her attendance at events as she is always juggling the boyfriends’ requests. So she is always telling people she is not feeling as a way to keep this excuse going on permanenly to pull out whenever she needs to. Of course, since she is always talking about herself and her activities she does let slip out that she was with a boyfriend on night she cancelled meeting with friends….seems was not feeling that bad after all. At any gathering she is constantly going outside to talk on the phone…still juggling those boyfriends…and trying to find new ones.
When a friend starts to distance themselves from her…well, then two things happen. Her sister starts to call her friend to say her sister is having so many troubles and hope the friend can support her. If that doesn’t work she sends a note saying that she visited a temple and bought a temple gift for them…and will even say she prayed at the temple to ask the gods to get her friend to still be nice to her. Those notes are downright scary in my opinion.
- Boyfriends breaking up:
Each time a boyfriend wanted to break up she would cry for days to anyone who would listen. Always talking about how much she loved them and how could not live without them. So over the years she was able to keep them on her leash but making them feel she was so in love with them or needed them so much.
However, she now is down to only one boyfriend….the poor one. Recently the rich one broke up with her. And the middle one seems to have started avoiding her. She cried for weeks to all her friends. Her sister called her friends to try to get them to cheer her up.
- Work attitude:
She has manipulated her department to accept all of her strange quirks…and that is due in large part to her relationship with her boss. Since her boss has a large amount of problems (including being incarcerated) he just lets her do whatever she wants. If she goes to the office (only a few times per week) she shows up at noon and leaves around 16:00. When she arrived at work and was carrying anything her assistant had to go downstairs and carry items up to her office…even when her assistant was pregnant