Do you think this is normal for "good" girl to love two guys?
[color=#008000]Mod Note: Names have been changed. Girl = Jane Doe, American = John Doe, German = Jack Doe.[/color]
This story is about one Taiwanese girl Jane and two boyfriends John (USA) and Jack (Germany). Names are not real
I am Taiwanese girl, who work and study in Taiwan, before lived in USA. Sometimes hang out with friends in clubs and I know many foreign students in our University.
I have one friend from USA (Washington DC). And we chat sometimes. Once he tried to say something in Chinese, eventually I found out that his GF is from Taiwan. They met 1 year ago online (February 2008) and they fall in love then she tripped to visit him in USA (Washington DC) in July and stayed with him for 5 weeks. They had great feelings, sex and so on. In August she came back to Taiwan and they were dated different people, but after one month (in September) they realized they love each other very much. So they decided to be together no matter what! And John promised to girl to arrange their future and come to visit her in Taipei in March 2009 and moved to Taipei in summer 2009. Tickets for March already bought! Hotel for parents booked and he was going to stay his GF house.
They talk over the phone every day, chatting, planning future, John was sending gifts to her, money, cards and Love notes written in Chinese. And as John said they trust each other 100%.
Then he showed me this girl, Jane, on his Facebook. I was really surprised, because that girl was Jack’s Girlfriend (exchange NTU student from Germany). I know some of his friends and I know that they date for 4-5 months having great time in night clubs, bars, sex and so on. And his friends say, Jack stays in Jane’s house 24/7. They love each other very much.
I was shocked, because that meant this girl have two Boyfriends – John from USA and Jack from Germany. I feel bad, because John was planning to move to Taipei for her. His plan was to visit her in March then she was going to USA to study English for 2 months and in Summer they move back to Taiwan and probably marry.
I told John about this girl and her BF Jack, he did not believe to me, but later call her and she told him she loves him, but he is not here now so can not support her, but Jack is here. She feels confused, because Love both, but Jack soon will go home, so she can stay with John.
See my small chat with John below (I left few lines only to understand this situation). And my question is – do you think this is normal if girl have sex with one guy and meanwhile dreaming about another? I really hate this feeling, because I heard from so many foreign friends that Taiwanese girls are so easy to get, and they cheat with every single foreigner. How this girl Jane could accept gifts from John (who loves her) if she date another guy (who also loves her)? Now John knows Jane has Jack, but read my chat with him to understand what he will do about it.
By the way, maybe there are more guys here who date this girl Raise your voices!
she cared for Jack because he really supported her in this hard time, but her feelings for me were so strong
here is John…a guy in her heart she really cared about and still cares about so much. He is so far away right now and not really a big part of her life
maybe Jack leaves in June, maybe not; I know I am in her heart
so she has two guys in her heart???
I think it is hard for her to choose, she is a little confused
she sleep with Jack!!! so how she can say she is confused?
So? she slept with him; at the same rate - she told me she loved me even though she is sleeping with him
You were Sending to her gifts over 200$ also
Do you think Jack thinks it’s ok? and you even knowing that she has BF, doing it also,
yes so - may the best man win
ye, having sex,is not dating? what is wrong with you people!!!
what is this issue with you and sex, when I was dating when Jane went back, I was having sex, even though I missed her; she was in Taipei~ I was here having fun too just like she was ~ this I guess you can say was all part of the journey
well, i don’t understand her, because now i feel bad for Jack