Some time before I knew they had money trouble, after I had been paid my salary, the bosses wife asked me if she could borrow 10 grand for a few days I agreed and got paid back a few days later.
Some days we had this carrousel going on from people picking up and bringing money. He would get money from one shark, write a bunch of cheques, and pay the money to next guy in line.:bravo:
One time we got treatend by one of the goonies a shark brought with him, they started yelling and say ugly stuff, I looked him in the eyes and told him to go scratch his balls. Moron :raspberry: :fume:
These guys came by many times, always a bunch of them, on scooters, making noise. :loco:
Unfortunately the only person who can settle this is the person who owes you money. A third party will not want to know about you. Most people who lend money never have anything in writing to prove that they have lent money.
My own thoughts are to never lend more than you can afford not to get back. If you can somehow tape a conversation where she admits that she owes you money ( call her by her full name ) then you may be able to start a civil claim.
Nah, lots of people seem to think āYou were stupid, so just forget about it.ā I still cling to the idea that there are honest people in the world, no matter how many times Iām forcibly disillusioned.[/quote]
the problem is that there are dishonest people in the world too. and they donāt have ā666ā stamped on their forehead or something.
When I lend money to a friend, I mark it as a loss in my ledger and I never lend more than I think I can accept as a total loss.
On two occastions a lover demanded money from me. It was much more than I could give, but I gave anyway thinking that it would be better than dealing with the badgering.
One time I invested in a retail business. I never saw that money either. He said the venture failed, but strange thing is heās still in the same line of business at the same location. His reason: āYour investment was for a specific product line that failed.ā
Maybe itās time I get me a copy of that book The Ugly Chinaman.
If you canāt get justice get even. Something like this happened to my borther in law - a falling out over business - former partner absconded with the trade assets. Amazingly the assets in question vanished without a trace from the former partner new supposedly secret business location a few week afterwards. So did his car.
A third party will not want to know about you. Most people who lend money never have anything in writing to prove that they have lent money.
If you can somehow tape a conversation where she admits that she owes you money ( call her by her full name ) then you may be able to start a civil claim.[/quote]
she is not talking to me.never attends the phone though it rings always.so the phone is regularly charged,but she just doesnt attend.
I was thinking if the mobile company can let me know if she is attending or making calls from her phone from/to any other numberā¦ perhaps then i can contact that personā¦ seems difficultā¦
i donāt have anything in writing,even deleted the old SMSes abt money.i know it wasnāt smart,but it happenedā¦
same thing happened to me here in US, i got a signed promissionary note yet I donāt know how to go about suing him. I sent a certifiy mail to him but got return to me. I kind of gave up on it, I mean is it really worth all the pain and hassle to go through all these???
I donāt even wanna think about my situation, makes me depressā¦ FK!!
In the States, ask your local government about āsmall claims courtā. Itās easy to file a claim, and most likely, if you ahve written proof, and the debor doesnāt show up, you might get a judgement against him. But then you have to enforce it ā which means applying for a court order. Itās not impossible, though. Worth a try. At least in the States they will look ONLY at the evidence, not at whom the person knows.
A third party will not want to know about you. Most people who lend money never have anything in writing to prove that they have lent money.
If you can somehow tape a conversation where she admits that she owes you money ( call her by her full name ) then you may be able to start a civil claim.[/quote]
she is not talking to me.never attends the phone though it rings always.so the phone is regularly charged,but she just doesnt attend.
I was thinking if the mobile company can let me know if she is attending or making calls from her phone from/to any other numberā¦ perhaps then I can contact that personā¦ seems difficultā¦
I donāt have anything in writing,even deleted the old SMSes abt money.I know it wasnāt smart,but it happenedā¦[/quote]
OOPSā¦ OK without written proof it does become exceedingly difficult.
The only way would be to visit the person in question and try to tape your conversation then take it to a small claims court.
This is the bleeding heart in me talking, but, thing is, I sill consider him a friend and always will. I was really hurt by this, and finally decided one day Iād let it go. āMaybe there is more to it.ā I thought.
But it still gets to me. Sometimes, Iād bring it up thinking I could get more of an answer, or perhaps an apology at leastā¦ ā¦
This is the bleeding heart in me talking, but, thing is, I sill consider him a friend and always will. I was really hurt by this, and finally decided one day Iād let it go. āMaybe there is more to it.ā I thought.
But it still gets to me. Sometimes, Iād bring it up thinking I could get more of an answer, or perhaps an apology at leastā¦ ā¦[/quote]
Iām not sure why, but money lending is a common occurance among my Taiwanese friends. Every one of them has at least one very sad āI lent my friend NT$100,000 and he/she never paid it backā story.
I agree with those who tell you to decide whether or not it is worth it to pursue this person in a civil or criminal case. Most people of this ilk need strong outside motivation in order to pay a sum back.
I agreed and got paid back a few days later. 
