My father used to have endless conversations about marriage. Two things have always held true.
- marriage is a job, if you don’t work at it, you loose the job.
- Marry your friend because love fades and friendship might be the only glue that binds during the bad times.
There is nothing wrong with marriage if one is smart about it.[/quote]
I think you mean “realistic,” don’t you? I’m not sure how “smart” it is to take on an additional job for life, and look forward to spending your middle and later years with someone for whom you have great feelings of friendship but no passion for.
I do think that a successful long-term marriage relationship takes a great degree of unselfishness and willingness to sacrifice on the part of both people involved. That’s the admirable part.
Me, I’d rather just have a bunch of good friends, and switch lovers when the passion dies. I may change some day. Cynicism is an indulgence I’m not ready to give up yet.