I wonder how many of you Forumosans are in the habit of holding hands with your partner or a companion when you’re out and about in public places?
We all know that Taiwanese girls tend to be inveterate hand-holders. If they feel attracted to you, they’ll start to reach for your hand even when you’re out together for the first time. How do you respond when that happens? Have you foreign ladies had the same experience with Taiwanese guys, and how do you take it?
Having been born and raised in England, I was never much into hand-holding, and used to try to avoid it unless we were in a place where no one or hardly anyone was likely to see us. Even out in the back of beyond, I’d hesitate to accept custody of the proffered extremity if I thought it might convey inappropriate signals of intention or commitment. However, after I’d succumbed to the charms of the lass who is now my wife, I started to let her keep hold of my hand when we went out together because I knew it made her feel happy and secure. I was rather uncomfortable with it at first, especially when we encountered cynical-looking foreigners who appeared as if they might be likely to sneer and jeer at such a sight, but now I’m habituated to it and seldom give a thought to what others might think.
I’ve noticed that a high proportion of other foreign guys I see around are also clutching mitts with their Taiwanese girls. Are you one of them? When will you and won’t you do it, and what do you have to say about hand-holders or hand-holding?
I agree. I was never much of a hand-holder back home, but here I’m one of them.
My girlfriend absolutely refuses to kiss me in public (I’m not talking about a full-on kiss, just a kiss good-bye at the airport or whatever) but she finds it perfectly acceptable to walk with her hand in my back pocket and grab my ass anywhere. :loco:
[quote=“Bassman”]I’m a big hand-holder.
Same goes for back in New Zealand too.[/quote]
Almas John’s your man, then. Better make sure you get him good and drunk first though.
I used to hold hands a lot, but less since I came to Taiwan. Me andmy wife rarely hold hands now.
This is bound to sound wrong, but there’s something about the way some froregin guys hold hands with their Taiwanese gfs/wives that puts me off. Seems overly possessive or something. (the way they’re doing, it - not the act). But, probably nothing really.
[quote=“Bu Lai En”][quote]I’ve noticed that a high proportion of other foreign guys I see around are also clutching mitts with their Taiwanese girls.[/quote] I’ve noticed that too. I used to hold hands a lot, but less since I came to Taiwan. Me andmy wife rarely hold hands now.
This is bound to sound wrong, but there’s something about the way some froregin guys hold hands with their Taiwanese gfs/wives that puts me off. Seems overly possessive or something. (the way they’re doing, it - not the act). But, probably nothing really.
Brian[/quote]
Perhaps it’s the age difference, or perhaps you forgot you lookied like that once too.
My wife will grab my hand in the car, on the street, bassically whenever we are together. The only time she’s not holding my hand is when we hit the sack… she’s usually holding something else then…
I usually hold hands too. It’s just practical. Too easy losing somebody scuttering around Hsimen or Shida.
The first “real” boyfriend that I held hands with was for a different reason, though. I liked the way people looked at us when we were walking together…women used to come up to me in the bathroom and tell me how hot my guy was!
Now it’s just habit…the last one took my hand and escorted me to the bathroom every time we went to a club or restaurant…then he would wait outside the door and escort me back to my chair.
A bit strange, das nicht?
I don’t like holding hands, at all, but my girl is always grabbing at me. Hand in my pocket an’ all that. I don’t consider myself self-conscious, but it makes me feel like I’m back in the fourth grade on the playground being pressured by my girlfriend to prove we’re together. Maybe I should just give all the way into it and start skipping along singing “Zippity Doo Dah” next time. At least then she’ll feel as silly as I do.
The PP and I have our own special way. We interlock pinkie fingers either alone or in collusion with the remaining digits.
This thread reminds me of that hilarious scene in SITC where Samantha refuses to hold hands with her b/f. When she finally allows him to show such a base PDA, she falls into a sea of garbage.
Overall, I used to feel somewhat self-concious due to the age difference, but now I don’t give a fig. I love my PP and I don’t care who knows it.
OT, but Omni, you have a delicious way with words.
