What exactly do you find so amusing? Men here happen to like greatly the local girls, which makes in many cases more difficult for a foreigner girl to find somebody, or thatâs what I have heard several times. They (foreigner girls) also complain about local guys because usually they are, in theyâre words, too shy.
I think in all things, but particularly in a thread asking for non-Asian womenâs views, that a waiguo guy should tell everyone what we think. Pure projection. :roflmao:
May be I was generalizing, which is a pretty common thing here btw, but it is something that I have heard many times, plus you can even see threads here with similar opinions written by⌠woman. Indeed, there is a meme about the âsexual life of a white woman in Taiwanâ. I guess that means something.
Thereâs some truth to that, and the dating dynamic is certainly different in Taiwan- it was a shock to me, I wonât deny it. But I think any âthinkingâ western woman wouldnât immediately hate her Taiwanese counterparts - particularly when you often see that the expat men behave very badly toward many of them. Of the dozens of couples/dating situations Iâve seen between western men/Taiwanese women, I can think of maybe 2 (Iâm being generous here, I can only think of one actually but Iâm sureâŚsomewhere? There was another one) where I thought it was a good relationship/the guy was someone I would consider dating.
For the most part Iâve seen western guys cheating on their Taiwanese girlfriends. The culture is different and I think itâs harder (because of culture and language; NOT because the local girls are any less smart) for a local girl to spot a skunk.
However Iâm sure there are MANY MANY wonderful couplings between western men and Taiwanese women. I live in a smaller town and have observed mostly men in their mid-twenties- certainly different from more mature, married couples.
Well, I partially agree with you. However, I have to say that for what I have read from you, I consider you a quite sensible and sensitive young girl, most likely above the average girl you can find, so you are not a valid example
I also see some accusations towards the foreign male population⌠take care with that. Iâm not saying that thereâs no truth in that, but donât get too biased like others already areâŚ
Iâve definitely been really really bad about this in the past. I had quite a shock a couple of years ago, in which I was put in a position where i felt like I was betraying another woman by not telling her what I knew, and when 3 or 4 girls in a row came crying to me about their foreign boyfriends. It was a really hard time for me personally, and I developed some prejudices against western guys in Taiwan and even perpetuated that by talking about it with a lot of people. I feel pretty shitty about any damage Iâve done- itâs never a good idea to point the finger at an entire group of people. Individuals should be taken as they come.
Now I just tell my young female students, âIf you want to date a foreign guy, remember to look him straight in the eye and ask this question, âAre we exclusive?â and watch carefully for his reaction.â
I think Taiwanese girls donât even think to ask this question- it seems that most just assume exclusivity when they are sleeping with someone.
I would love to see a discussion on this topic with ONLY actual foreign women participating in the conversation. Every time this question comes up, the dialogue is always dominated foreign MEN describing this fantasy scenario where all of the women (Taiwanese and foreign) desperately want them (foreign men), Taiwanese men have no good traits, and nobody wants foreign women. It just doesnât reflect the reality I see at all and is such an obvious male ego tripping fantasy.
Taiwanese guys are âtoo shyâ to pursue a woman? Have you experienced being a white woman in Taiwan? Because I have, and I got pursued just as much as I did in the States.
Of the the western women I know here, some are in relationships with other foreigners, some are in relationships with Chinese/Taiwanese guys(ABC and local). When I tell my western female, Taiwanese male, and Taiwanese female friends my SO is Taiwanese, they might have some questions, but never express negativity. The western guys are the ONLY ones I know spewing this anti-Taiwanese guy vitriol. (and even then, itâs not all of them, and the ones that do are usually leaning more towards the âpick up a new Tai-mei every night at the expat barâ type than âserious stable relationshipâ type)
Mao-mi, if you are talking about my post (which I donât know, but I suspect itâs the case), I have only one advice for you: learn to read properly.
A dissenting opinion: I think the assumption works the other way. Many Taiwanese women assume men will cheat simply because they are men. There is this self-perpetuating idea that men cannot be trusted to control themselves in the presence of women. Something is bound to happen sooner or later⌠and a pragmatic way of addressing the issue is to turn a blind eye toward it all and hope that at least your man isnât super obvious about it.
About your suggestion, itâll probably never fly. Most Taiwanese people seem allergic to asking or answering direct questions. For the longest time I considered this to be part of some infernal game⌠nowadays I just think itâs kind of sly and pragmatic given how people date in Taiwan. Everyoneâs riding a mule and looking for a horse, right? And so no one wants to ask or answer questions about being involved with anyone else, and pretty much no one will believe you when you volunteer information that doesnât match the stereotype. It took me a while but eventually I realized that most women in Taiwan assume foreign guys are probably lying scumbags (something they have already come to terms with, by the way)⌠and if you say that youâre not seeing anyone else theyâll just scoff, say âyeah, rightâ, and think âwell, at least heâs keeping up the act!â Either that or Iâve just met a lot of unusually cynical people since moving hereâŚ
The OP is NOT the person who made that stupid request. It was another user, just for your information. If she finds this other personâs thread interesting, she can open it in the only-woman-forum.
Emirtrude, the same than in other threads people ask about what happens with this and that stuff, and people of all kind give information and opinion, it happens here.
Let me give you an example.
âWhy black people have long dicks?â
response from a white guy:
âI heard that it was useful in the past for their race. Now I have heard that itâs more of a pain in someoneâs ASSâ.