How many times do you ask?

You meet someone you like, and see them regularly for one reason or another - work, checkout person at your local 7-11, same social circle, whatever.

You make friends, chat, test the water, and finally feel confident enough to ask them out. Maybe you do this casually, in a roundabout way. Maybe you get down on one knee. It all depends on your personal style.

And you get turned down :noway:

What do you do? Give up? Ask again the next day? Wait a week or two?

Do you pursue the object of your attention relentlessly until they give in?

Do you have a limit to how many times you will ask?

Personally, it’s three.

Once maybe she’s not sure, or having a bad day.
Twice there may still be a valid reason.
Three times and she’s either not interested or is playing too hard to get. I’m not going to harrass someone who probably doesn’t want the attention and I’m not going to waste my time on someone who doesn’t know how to conduct a relationship. As a friend said recently: I have my pride.

Apparently this is considered strange in Taiwan. I was talking with a few people recently who apparently think that a successful love affair is one that starts with a long, drawn out process of wheedling (wearing down) and butt-kissing. Madness. :unamused:

What do you think?

You guys need to ask? Bummer!

More than three would definitely be desperation.
Actually I seldom get turned down if I call, because if a guy gives me his number (some do it just because they think they should) I can usually tell whether he WANTS me to call or not. Guys are just easier to read, I guess.

With guys calling me, it just depends on what they want to do…if they want to go out on a weekday, I always say no. I usually tell them to phone back on Friday or Saturday, and then they never do. If they want to go out on a weekend, it’s usually yes. At least then you know you can escape to a club if all they want to do is go to a movie and nightmarket (which seems to be magic-date-formula here).

Awwww Lollada YOU can ask me out ANYTIME and I won’t turn you down! Promise! :bouncy:
British men are soooooooo fuckable! :bouncy:
Whoever turns you down is an idiot and not worth of your time anyway! :bouncy:
I’ll be waiting for your call! Lollada!!! :bouncy:

Thrice is nice.

Once is easy.

ignore the girl that treats you like that.

“if she don’t wanna know then just forget her”
thin lizzy, the boys are back in town

[quote=“914”]
Once is easy.[/quote]

How’s that easy? If Lollada were to ask me out right now, I’d say “yes!”. But that doesn’t mean that I’m gonna sleep with him on the first date. Well depends on how fuckable he is.

:bouncy:

[quote=“Dave’s girl”][quote=“914”]
Once is easy.[/quote]

How’s that easy? If Lollada were to ask me out right now, I’d say “yes!”. But that doesn’t mean that I’m gonna sleep with him on the first date. Well depends on how fuckable he is.

:bouncy:[/quote]

I think you just made Loretta a very, very, very happy man.

Loretta lives with Brian and doesn’t shave her legs.

Three strikes and you’re outta here.

If there was anyone here named Lollada then Dave’s Girl might be in with a chance. Sadly she’s not only someone else’s girl, she’s talking about someone who doesn’t exist!

But yes, I am eminently fuckable. But that’s not on account of my passport. I’m fuckable because of my suave and debonair good looks, wit, charm, kind and caring nature, and strong but gentle hands. Why does no-one ever appreciate this? They only want me 'cos I’m a UKainian. :unamused:

I am not an object!

PS Will you go out with me?

Three times…plenty enough.

Honestly, if a girl is really interested in you, she will usually say yes the first time - or even better be the one inviting herself out with you. (Subtle hints and the like).

If she really can’t and she realy likes you, she will come up with an alternative day, with nearly no prodding needed from you.

If a girl plays that hard to get, and does not encourage you to at the veyr least ask again, I for one would not bother.

I always stop when she pulls out the taser.

[quote=“914”]Thrice is nice.

Once is easy.[/quote]I’ve asked you hundreds of times, The last time you said “fk off you little td, I wouldn’t go out with you if you paid me a million dollars and you had a massive wang and I was blind and retarded or something, and stop bothering me before I stab you in your eyes with a fork and pull your arms off, you sad pathetic little s**t”

I think my chances are improving there :thumbsup:

The girlie in my local 7-11 (where I get my buns) has started talking to me, but I’m too stupid to pick up any hints, and too shy (and too married) to do anything in return. :unamused:

PS. I’m British too, but sadly not a studmuffin like Loretta.

She must say that to everybody.

I’d say that if someone is interested, you get the feeling. Start with a harmless cup of coffee or lunch, and let them suggest the time and place.

If this doesn’t work, forget it. They’re not interested because you have just given them an open ended invitation. My girlfriend and I had lunch, then dinner, then drinks. Then she finally came over to my house several times before we actually “connected”.

I played it very slow because I knew she was interested and didn’t see the need to hurry.

But like I mentioned above, if they do not accept an open invite, for whatever reason, then forget it because only a fool would pursue someone after that. :loco:

Life is full of fools. Or is that hope springs eternal? :eh:

[quote=“Mr He”]Honestly, if a girl is really interested in you, she will usually say yes the first time - or even better be the one inviting herself out with you. (Subtle hints and the like).

If she really can’t and she realy likes you, she will come up with an alternative day, with nearly no prodding needed from you.

If a girl plays that hard to get, and does not encourage you to at the veyr least ask again, I for one would not bother.[/quote]
Mr He is right on the mon-ney! If the girl digs you and if for some reason she really can’t do it on that particular date, she’ll be like “well, how about…?” See what I mean? So, once is sufficient. Twice you’re pathetic. Three times you’re a moron.

But in the case of some really shy Taiwanese girls, it’s a bit tricky. I’d say three times. Sometimes because of the language barrier, they can’t quite express what they really want to say, then you need to be more patient. Which reminds me of this real cute Taiwanese guy that pursued me, he tried and tried but I was too moronic to respond properly. Anyway, in the end he gave up. Probably thought that I was not interested when in fact I so was! I was just inexperienced with Taiwanese boys at the time. Oh well.

Yes!!! But you’re not bien-tai like rantheman, are ya? Me scared. :bouncy:

P.S. Big fluffy, I think you’re totally hot, too! Cuz you’re animal lover and a vegetarian just like me. A man is only hottest when he’s got a heart!
But too bad you’re too married. Maybe they should have all the married men on the board marked ‘married’ just so the girls know who to flirt with so as not to waste their time. :laughing:

You don’t need to ask anything. Just move around a lot and find excuses to stand real close. Experiment with different positions. If her body likes you it will begin to sway in rhythm to the kegal exercises you are both doing. Her face will turn a little red and her nipples protrude even more noticably. There may be dilation of the pupils and a moistening of the lips. Be sure to keep talking but try not to make any sense so that everything could be construed as a sexual innuendo. At no point should you allow her to percieve any diminshment in your rapture at her exquisite beauty. This is a transcendant moment. Life is attempting to renew renew itself. Look her in the eye with a sort of dazed glow as if to say my balls feel so heavy, so very veryy heavvyy.

If this approach doesn’t work give up. Either she doesn’t like you are she hasn’t an ounce of lust in her.