i used to believe in falling in love with someone at first sight…however, i was more and more confused at what love is after trying a short interracial relationship for 5 months…how to tell if you find true love or you’re just infatuated with someone??
It doesn’t matter one way or the other. As long as you feel attracted to someone, they reciprocate, and you have a good time together, everything’s good.
Marry them and have a baby with them. If it works out, it’s true love. If it doesn’t, it was only infatuation. 
What is infatuation? When one person stops loving the other after a short peroid of time?
If you get any chance to feel love for someone, take it. It doesn’t grow on trees.
Wait 5-10 years.
If you smile and remember the stuff you did together fondly, and wish him well in everything he does, then it was love.
If you can’t remember what he looks like, then it was an infatuation.
If you still remember every single thing about him and still want to smash his weasly, lying, smirking face in, then you’re mental and need to get out more.
In the meantime, spend more time with your friends, get some interests and eat more fibre. And stop thinking about what other people think of you.
I don’t think you can love someone you don’t really, really know. I think “love at first sight” is infatuation and nothing more. Love requires deep understanding.
Infatuation is a lust that doesn’t take root. Doesn’t mean the fruit can’t be sweet: it just doesn’t last long.
I’ve had some infatuations last longer than some loves. It is easier to absolutely think someone is magnificent when you don’t know them that well.
A crush is a feeling. Love is a choice.
What she said. :bravo:
Is there some reason that the mere fact that the relationship was interracial made you more confused? Are you hinting at more?
Also, what age range are you? This may be controversial, but I don’t think people under 21 or so, generally, comprehend what love is. Not that they aren’t capable, but modern culture bombards us with this crap, ad-filled, bs about romance, first love, hallmark card shite, and that, to my mind, confuses people more than anything else. of course, if you’re outside that sphere of influence, things may be different.
Well, I meet someone here just over a month a go and it was far from love at first sight. She even thought that all I wanted was a one night stand with her 
But as we saw more of eachother I’ve started to realise that I really love this girl, a lot.
She’s not very typically Taiwanese from what I can tell, but that’s good imho…
But the best thing is that she gives me love back, I can tell that she cares about me and wants to be with me.
I think that’s the most important thing, love can’t just be given, it has to be given back as well.
It’s taken me a good few years to understand this and maybe I wasted too many years of my life, but right now I feel happy, something I haven’t done for a very long time.
love can’t just be given, it has to be given back as well
maybe im afraid of loving someone without getting the same back…so sometimes i use" a crush" as an excuse to get over it more easily especially when it comes to an interracial friendship or relationship…
To reiterate JB’s question above, why is the inter-racial nature of the relationship special?
Inter-species would be a lot more interesting than this ‘Hello Kitty’ high school drivel.
Inter-species would be a lot more interesting than this ‘Hello Kitty’ high school drivel.[/quote]
PM almas john. More info than you’ll ever need.
Come on guys, be nice. Girlie’s had her heart bwoken by a furriner. She’s expecting you to explain how penis owners not born in Taiwan think!
A little practical help, here!
To reiterate JB’s question above, why is the inter-racial nature of the relationship special?[/quote]
The fact that the poster again repeats this sentiment makes me suspect that this may be more of a foreigner fetish than a crush or love, but that’s just my suspicion. we can wait for a response.
[quote=“littlemisssunshine”]love can’t just be given, it has to be given back as well
maybe im afraid of loving someone without getting the same back…so sometimes i use" a crush" as an excuse to get over it more easily especially when it comes to an interracial friendship or relationship…[/quote]
'Allo 'Allo…a bit of a giver are we then Love?
Howsabout a bit of the old foamy and a chat then?
Metaphorically speaking…of course!
This 80’s boy agree’s with Pat Benetar, Love is a battlefield.
We are young, heartache to heartache we stand
No promises, no demands
Love is a battlefield
We are strong, no one can tell us were wrong
Searchin our hearts for so long, both of us knowing
Love is a battlefield