Every relationship start on fantastic then became relationshit.
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You guys must have all the time in the world to be willing to deal with an addict in any capacity. Iād be washing my hands of this nonsense in about half a second. I just think, why, when thereās so many other hotties available who donāt have a substance abuse problem?
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Every time I see a single girl oh, I just have to think, thereās some guy, somewhere, thatās sick of her shit.
Iām sure it works both ways, women may think the same thing.
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This I will do.
She has probably heard it before and knows it.
My advise is donāt fall so hard, donāt give 100% when you fall in-love.
Not necessarily. She may be surrounded by enablers.
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Normally would bail as quick as possible. But there is just this quite special unique connection that I maybe have never had before.
So I am currently working with the situation, but Iām not going in blind.
I donāt expect that I can fix someone. Maybe I can help be a part of the fix. I know I cannot do that for someone else.
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Aha, true true true.
Sheās an alcoholic. It doesnāt mean sheās a bad person. If you really like her, you could try to guide her through it and help get her treatment.
I quit adderall and severely cut down on my drinking for my wife. It is possible to change people for the better.
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Do you mean when Iām sober or sheās sober or
Let me think about this for a minute over a glass of wine.
I have not yet determined if sheās ever sober. Even when we are texting throughout the day I cannot tell maybe she already had drinks or something I donāt know.
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Even if I didnāt know, Iād guess you werenāt male from this post 
You know those occasions when women moan about being at the mercy of their hormones? Well, men have to deal with that all the time, every minute of the day. Frankly, it sucks.
@tango42 : agree with all of the above, including your own remark about alcohol being the worst drug ever. The problem is that the addiction process is so slow and insidious people can deny that they have a problem right up until the moment theyāre hospitalized with advanced liver cirrhosis.
You can lay it on the line and tell her she has a problem thatās a make-or-break issue, but I would suggest also telling her sheās absolutely awesome and the last thing you want to do is walk away because of it. But do bear in mind that even if she kicks the habit, sheāll probably never be able to touch a drink again, or sheāll be at risk of going on a bender.
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I just feel like I could marry this woman in a moment. And spend a life together.
Whatās the word for less than rare occurrence like a one-time occurrence.
Iām talking way too much here. Time to phone a friend.
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High school crush?
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What? You can bang an addict at your own risk. Itās stupid, but not as stupid as willingly getting more deeply involved with them.
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Not saying itās sensible, logical, or right. Men know when what theyāre doing is stupid, illogical, and likely to end in tears. And then they do it anyway. Because itās what we are. We rarely get any credit for making a heroic effort to not act like monkeys.
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Just jerk off every time you feel like calling the person you really like but know deep down is bad for you. Duh. Everyone knows that trick.
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Like I said ā¦ youāre not male If only it were that simple ā¦
Women make shitty relationship choices too, incidentally. But they do it for different reasons.
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Have you heard of a guy called Fun Bobby?
I think you can always try to let her know the amount and frequency of her consumption is worrying you.
By the way, Iāve heard the way to get someone to change their behavior is by promising them something they value first, and take away a portion of it every time they violate the agreement.
If you know this woman well enough, you can have a no binge drinking fund, say 3,000 NTD per month, and every time she drinks in the morning, or drinks a bottle in one night, you take away 100 NTD. She can get the reminder at the end of every month.
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