[quote=“llary”][quote=“joesax”]Llary, when you came here, you were planning to stay long-term, right? You’re normally pretty positive about stuff, at least in your posts, so I’m guessing that this may just be one of the typical downturns regarding living in Taiwan that we all feel from time to time.
Sure, it’s good to find out about other options. NZ could well be a good idea. But I’d advise you to wait a few months before reaching a final decision. During that time, living in Taiwan might well start to seem a bit more enjoyable again, and then you could make your decision based on the positive aspects of both places rather than out of wanting to escape.
Sorry if this sounds at all patronising or you don’t feel it’s relevant to you. Obviously my opinions are based on my own experience, not yours, as I don’t know you.[/quote]
Part tongue-in-cheek, part deadly serious (except the NZ bit).
I have to admit that when I finally got my business registration, ARC etc. I stubbornly ignored all the people who told me what an uphill struggle it would be to fit in, and now it’s biting me in the ass.
I thought I would be happy in my current house because it’s about a billion miles up a mountain with a total of five neighbours. Somehow they have still conspired to make my life a misery by locking dogs up in cages that bark all night, singing KTV at 2am/6am/whenever the fuck they feel like, testing out their car stereo at full volume and the latest fun bit of ‘culture’ - starting an extremely loud funeral procession at 5am that doesn’t start moving - very slowly - until 9am and which I obviously can’t do anything about because I’m British and too polite to tell dead people to fuck off.
For the past few weeks I’ve thought very hard about why I came to Taiwan and what is good about life here. My girlfriend, my waiguo pengyou, a few sterling Taiwanese friends, my nice house in the mountains (caveat emptor above), decent hospitals, decent weather, general convenience, cheap tasty food. Then I think about the selfishness and arse-clenching stupidity I encounter on a daily basis. The ‘family or fuck you’ attitude. The lack of logic or common sense. The way that grown adults believe in ghosts. The way I get the shits every time I think about going to a government office. The complete, 100% lack of policing south of Taipei. I mean, seriously… all this stuff is getting harder and harder to block out and as it gets harder I think about all the other places on this ol’ earth with mountain houses, potential friends, convenience, nice weather, good food etc. etc.
I have a business trip to Japan in a few weeks and while I lied to myself that it will help clear my head, I know that when I come back I’ll just get depressed about how undeveloped Taiwanese society is by comparison. Still, at any rate I have a two year commitment on a new office and about 1 1/2 years left on my current ARC and I’m not the kind of guy just to up sticks because I get a bit depressed. To be honest, the commitment hasn’t helped relieve pressure but I needed a new office. I was going to try and end on a smiley but I’m afraid I can only just about manage a :s
:boo-hoo:[/quote]Keep your pecker up! I don’t have much to say that hasn’t been said many times already. Just one thing really. It certainly does seem sometimes that many people are selfish and less considerate than in some other places. And whenever I think about this too much I feel a bit down. But then often something happens to remind me that it’s not all like that. I do see “random acts of kindess” fairly often, and I always feel better for it.
It’s all experience, anyway. Whether you leave after two years or stay a bit longer, it can still be a useful time.
Sorry I didn’t get the chance to meet you in Taichung. Hope to see you in Taipei sometime.