Much appreciated are you insights, Hannes.
I am fine with receiving any and all tips or advice, for I also realize perspective is important to consider–and I’ll listen to all. I, myself, had gone through all sorts of soul-searching and readings (academic and social media) on how to approach alienation, and I can certainly say there are some out there who mirror your approach of remaining positive. I’ve allowed myself, however, to periodically post truisms about the nonsense of the Kaohsiung Juvenile & Family Court, the ex and the wrongdoings, the Guardian ad Litem, etc., for I felt that letting truths also be known can help the kids one day understand how all came crashing down. My FB posts for a daily reflection are sometimes just positives and how I miss them, want to see them, etc., but at times I lay all out on the table.
I do, indeed, however, need to simple say that “What YOU did in the past to put you in this situation in the first place” isn’t accurate. Simply put, I fought to stay in my kids’ lives in a BS court, with an ex and ex father-in-law who strived to erase me (whether her daddy dearest recouping face by getting rid of me, embarrassed and having lost face with a divorced daughter, etc.). I had a restraining order against THEM for their actions. I had to file petitions and injunctions when they refused to let me see them for 189-days in 2014. And in the end of the custody battle, in 2016, a falsified report from a Taiwanese Guardian ad Litem (proven to be full of lies with a recording of her visit she’d made–which completely contradicted her report)–was what the judge used for her decision for custody. I think I could write a book here, but in the end (in 2017), another judge after two hearings took the kids 100% away–for unjustifiable and unproven falsehoods.
I had submitted to the courts a number of emails and Messenger messages from my ex to me, to friends and to family that my ex wrote upon separation that I was an “excellent daddy”, a “great father,” etc. When I refused the notion of sole custody, filing for joint custody, instead, the ex and her wealthy father upped the ante and then blocked me completely (for no justifiable reason).
Sorry to be long-winded here, yet the notion of “what ‘I’ did in the first place is entirely erroneous”.
With all due respect,