I would agree if I were the only one who see something that nobody sees. But, it is not true. I never said anything to anyone who knows him. But, I saw 3 or 4 people who met him and complained directly to him and cited exactly the same thing that he did to me. Even the ones who like him also see what I see. But, there are two types of people “The ones who chose to be blind (many of them) and only few ones who speak up (me and 3 people)”. Some people would say things like “We know he is not always honest, but we still like to join in his group”. I am totally fine with it. I chose to speak in a forum because I don’t want to do the same thing he did. My intention is not making everyone to hate him like he did to me. I just want some honest opinions from strangers because family members or friends will always stand for you. I try to be coherent. I don’t wish everyone to say that I am the right one. I want to know how people would handle this situation. Maybe I did it the wrong way or people would handle better than me. I think forums are allowed for everyone to speak up without degrading others. I will never say his name here or anywhere. Because it is not my intention to make him to look like a bad person. Hope you understand my point.
I think you pointed many things that could help me. Seriously, I really have difficulties to deal with social life. I took “Interpersonal Relationship” classes in College. But, it was more related to Business and working place. It worked very well when I was living in USA. Because the classes were given there. It is hard to tell whether it will work in every country and with every individual. I know it is boring to speak about this drama. It sounds too personal. I just moved a lot from countries to countries during my whole life. I made long-term friendships with people from different countries. But, none of them did this to me. Maybe because I didn’t remain in one place so long. I spent few years as homeschooling. I made friendship with homeschooling kids. It is another world. I moved out from my parents’ home when I was 18. But, I never lived with roommates. I had my private room. I met a partner when I was 20. We lived together for 10 years in a remote area, and the only person that I had a real face to face contact was my ex and co-workers. I moved to Taiwan when I was 31. Again, I lived by myself for many years. My life here was only between work and home. I finally tried to socialize with people when I was 31. So, I feel a little bit alienated when this happens in the real world. I don’t know what to do.
Oh yes, some people did tell him. Recently, one of the guys who knows him is my co-worker. Our relationship at work is fine. The guy told him “Please leave her alone, it has been a long time ago. She is doing fine and doesn’t remember you.” He got pissed because the dude didn’t want to listen to him. But, he won’t argue with the dude. So, he displaced his anger by sending me a private message cussing on me. More to this story? Do you think I was involved with him romantically? Not really. He is younger than me. If he wants, he can get a young and hot girlfriend. There is only one thing that explains. Some girls spoil him a lot with gifts and treat him to eat out. Not sure if they are all romantically linked to him. There are only 3 reasons why they spoil him.
- Because he is the group’s leader. So, they consider him as a mentor.
- They might want to date him.
- They want to show they have money.
I remember he did a research about me. He thinks me and my family have money. I know some girls who spoil him are not rich. They work and earn minimum wages. In his mind, I am sure he thinks I am “stingy” comparing to those girls. Damn! I only met him 2 or 3 times during his social gathering. There is no reason to spoil him. Nobody can tell us what to do with our money.
Oh yes, I ignored this person. I ignored him for almost 10 years until I received his message harrassing me recently. I never reconnected to him for almost 10 years. I saw him in other venues. But, I didn’t say “hi” to him and kept distance from him. In reality, I forgot this person until he contacted me to call me names last month.
There are loads of users like this out there, Taiwanese , foreign nationals, men and women.
That’s the real talk. OP is mature enough to figure out these losers for who they are.
No
Exactly, you called him out for being a parasite. Even ten years later peter pan is doing the same thing I guess.
I always disliked Taiwan’s very small expat social scene because of this. You will run into these people again and again unless they leave Taiwan.
By the way you just threaten to sue him if he is badmouthing you or threatening you. Record everything.
Hmm, an On Again, Off Again Relationship with Forumosa Thread could be, hmm—- healing? 
I want to feel the connection to people who had the same experience. Maybe many of us did. But, many people would let it go and move on. However, it is not that easy. This becomes overload if it is repeated over and over again. It is not good for our emotional and mental. I want people to feel with their hearts what I feel. I want to feel what they feel as well. It is a way to give us strength. We can’t always be strong in every situation. We use our brains together to better ourselves and become someone amazing.
It is. We all need it.
Yeah, imma go ahead and sit at another table. 
You do you.
You just need to find more people to socialise wuth Perfectly normal, and could be more of a challenge when we get older for various reasons. Join some
groups such as hiking or whatever that you enjoy. Lots of interesting individuals join group hikes.
I asked people. If he proves he got some mental problems, the court will discharge him. Unless he gets a fine. Maybe 3,000 NT. I don’t want his money. I think I can move on without being affected. I just wanted to make sure if other people had the same experience, and how they solved it. Maybe it is something I didn’t handle well at the time.
Let it go.
I did. In addition, some people really helped me in this forum. I will do exactly like Shaun and BrianJones told me. If I see him in person, I will always walk away. If someone asks me about him, I will tell them “I don’t know this person” and change the subject. According to BrianJones, I will only stay around nice people.
Maybe she doesn’t drive.
You dont need to drive to clean brakes
I neither cite people’s names nor talk to people in real about my bad experiences with someone else. Sometimes, people do this as a competitive way. They want to meet more people than you. Yes, meeting more people can be great if they have a business and need to sell things. If I meet these people, it is fine if I am only nice to them. But, I can’t meet other people and spend my money on them as well. Because it is gonna be their losses. The more I spend with others, the less I will spend with them. I am not sure if I am correct at this point. Someone already called me “paranoid” in this thread. But, is it possible I see things that some people are not as perceptive as I am?
I started driving when I was 18. Not because I wanted. It was necessity because I was living in a remote area in USA. Most of people don’t like to hear the real life’s drama. According to the research, most men don’t like to talk about this because they think a girl’s thing. But, the result is not always happy. Sometimes, men also deal with situations like this. If they don’t speak openly, they have higher chances to become depressed. I didn’t invent this. In a forum like this, our identities are hidden.
You could have just blocked the number, forgotten about him again and carried on with your life. You’re still talking about it here which means you’re still giving him to much of your time.
She could just call Batman?
